22 Jul Say “WHEN!” (Learning law and order begins in the family)
Have you ever had one of your children pout or mope around when they didn’t get their way, or even slam their bedroom door when you’ve told them to go to their room? The answer is probably “yes.” I have dealt with moping and pouting and the silent treatment many times. My children have learned if they want to get their way, that pouting and moping and being angry is completely ineffective with me because nothing makes me angrier than when people (especially my children) try to compel or manipulate me. Because they know this, they have learned to change their tactics. They ask politely if they can do something and then graciously accept an answer they do not like because they know that we as their parents have decided.
I’m just wondering how many parents there are who have raised their kids this way? And the reason I ask? Consider the following:
While taking my younger daughter on a trip to Las Vegas last month, I began a conversation with a convenience store employee. We spoke for about ten minutes. He told me he was saving up his money to move back to his home town. He said he didn’t really like his job because he was amazed at how rude people were. I am keeping in mind that this is Las Vegas, but he said that people will come into the store where he works and relieve their bladders in the store, steal from the store, come drunk into the store, or swear at him in his store. He even had one woman (who was not intoxicated) walk down aisles and knock merchandise off of shelves and racks just for the heck of it. When he told her to stop, she had the nerve to ask, “What did you say to me? How dare you talk to me like that! Where’s your manager?” He replied that she could talk to his manager, but that the manager would side with him (which he did).
The other day, my other daughter and I were in another store and I started up a conversation with a retail merchant there. The merchant said she had heard from another employee about a woman who came into their store and began throwing handbags on the ground. When another customer, an older woman with cerebral palsy, asked why she was doing that, she said, “because I want to.” The customer with cerebral palsy was so disgusted by the woman’s behavior that she began picking up the purses and hanging them back up.
And now to cap it off. After the debacle last week where poorly educated people were fanned by the flames of racial hatred to retaliate for a verdict they felt was an insult to their race or to another’s race, they smashed in car windows and attacked and beat other people. A grandmother en route to the hospital to take her granddaughter for emergency care, was stopped by a mob and punched. And here is where my blood began a rolling boil.
My first thought is: “These people deserve a caning” – you know the kind they give in the country of Singapore. Seriously! The people that I have mentioned above have one thing in common: they are getting away with not only illegal, but absolutely outrageous and childish behavior. They are figurative two year olds that need to be swatted. I would never walk into a store and behave in any of those ways. If a politician I disliked was elected to office over someone I did like, I would not go out and smash windows and beat other people. Not only is it illegal, it’s uncivilized– plus it is just flat out wrong. Are these people acting this way because their parents didn’t teach them better? My guess is yes!
If I had ever had a tantrum in my parent’s home, they would have spanked my behind and sent me to my room. They did not tolerate misbehavior. I wonder why we do? Are too many parents losing their nerve to raise their children right and say no more often than they say yes? Are the inmates running the asylum? Is the law afraid to come down too hard on people all over the fear of politics or law suits? I say if you see outrageous behavior, you call people on it. Don’t be afraid to take a stand for what is right! When you’ve had enough, you say “when.”