Reader Poll: “Recognizing that all are important, what trait or quality do you think is the most important to teach children?”

Reader Poll: “Recognizing that all are important, what trait or quality do you think is the most important to teach children?”

Here’s the question we asked UFI readers: 

“Recognizing that all are important, what trait or quality do you think is the most important to teach children?”

Here’s how readers responded:

0 Percent                  Determination

36 Percent               Responsibility

11 Percent               Self-confidence/Self-Worth

32 Percent               Gratitude

21 Percent               Self-Control

 This was a tough one!  You can see that there was not an overwhelming winner with the results for “responsibility” and “gratitude” being very close.  Our readers don’t seem to follow the mantra of the secular world which seems to state that the most important thing you can teach children is to be self-confident.

Our staff at UFI had a long conversation about this question and couldn’t decide between responsibility and gratitude.  Can you be responsible and still be ungrateful?   If you are truly grateful, is it possible to not feel responsible to all around you?   All of the qualities mentioned are important ones and hopefully this gave you an opportunity to examine your own values and parenting focus.

 

 

2 Comments
  • Meagan
    Posted at 15:30h, 28 November Reply

    Ummmm, a little concerned here UFI about the judgements passed on those who would vote for #3. I voted for self-confidence and self-worth, but I did not vote for it to promote some kind of “secular” mantra. I felt that if a child doesn’t hate themself and think sucidal thoughts it’s easier to teach them to have emphathy for others, self-control, and thankfulness. I guess I was thinking of their worth as a creation of God he cares for as the springboard for all good behavior, there was nothing secular about it. I mean if people don’t think human beings are worth anything, how are they supposed to stand against abortion and all other wrongs in the world? Isn’t this where gratitude and responsibility start?

  • United Families International
    Posted at 20:52h, 28 November Reply

    Thank you, Meagan, for pointing out the non-secular perspective for #3. You are right that understanding your worth “as a creation of God he cares for” is an essential understanding and building block for the other character traits listed. Our reference to self-confidence/self-worth as a “secular mantra” comes from what we have seen, for example, in the educational establishment’s fixation on building self-esteem and self-confidence with such things as allowing only winners (everyone gets a trophy, teachers aren’t allowed to use a red pencil when correcting papers, etc.) The secular mantra of self-confidence is that everyone should be equal and tossing anything that resemble reward based on merit. I hope that clarifies where we were coming from; sorry to have troubled you with that comment.

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