The Gift of Unstructured Play

By Stephanie Batty  I told my kids, “You have two choices: stay inside and clean or go outside and play.” Not surprisingly, my children choose to go outside and play ninety-nine percent of the time, and I love it. Don’t get me wrong, my kids... Read more →

Confused about gender confusion? You are not alone.

by Jill Palmer Recently a sweet 9-year-old girl was at my house.  She is an incredible soul, who loves to play kickball, basketball, pickleball, well, anything with a ball really.  Oh, and soccer, she loves soccer.  She also loves to bake and wear skorts with... Read more →

A Texas Victory for Parents and Children We Can All Celebrate

Contributed by Katy Faust on behalf of United Families International  United Families International: Dedicated to informing you about the issues and forces impacting the family.   In the midst of a global pandemic, widespread Black Lives Matter protests, and general national upheaval,  some good news... Read more →

Harvard Magazine’s Misguided Attack on Homeschooling

United Families International: Dedicated to informing you about the issues and forces impacting the family. Contributed by Tori Black It was my husband’s work schedule that proved to be the last straw. He had just started work as a pilot at a major airline, and,... Read more →

One Blessing of Coronavirus Quarantine: Enforced Family Time

United Families International: Dedicated to informing you about the issues and forces impacting the family. By Jenet Erickson on behalf of United Families International I’ll never forget sitting amid a group of family scholars, community leaders and parents and hearing one stand and say, “What... Read more →

Families and Media: You Are What You Eat

by Sarah Justensen When individuals consistently eat nutritious foods, they will promote their own health and wellness. Alternatively, when people have a diet consisting of primarily junk food, they will eventually find themselves dealing with health problems. As Anthelme Brillat-Savarin once said, “Tell me what... Read more →

Preparing Children to Guard Their Hearts and Minds

By Eleah Boyd According to, there are somewhere between 500,000 and one million newly published book titles every year in the United States. With the cost-effectiveness of small print runs and digital book publishing, self-publishing is easier than ever. Anyone with an idea and a... Read more →

The Unsuspected Bully

By Laurel Bishop I let it happen to my kid because I didn’t recognize it. Throughout sixth grade, my son sat at his desk, the brunt of his teacher’s jokes and insults. The worst humiliation was the teacher’s direction to the other students to “not... Read more →

Dad – A Girl’s First and Most Influential Love

United Families International: Dedicated to informing you about the issues and forces impacting the family. Contributed by Dr. Timothy Rarick Last September, on a Sunday afternoon, my wife and I were walking through “Speakers Corner” in Hyde Park, London. I was amazed by the number... Read more →

We Need Children Even More than They Need Us: Part 2

United Families International: Dedicated to informing you about the issues and forces impacting the family. Contributed by Jenet Erickson The first article in this series focused on how societies benefit from an orientation toward nurturing children within families. As that article discussed, not only are... Read more →

The Equality Act – An Atrocity Against Women

Contributed by Tori Black On Tuesday, April 2, 2019, the House Judiciary Committee held a full committee hearing on HR5, the Equality Act. Sponsors and supporters of the act claim that it will extend civil rights protections based on sex, sexual orientation and gender identity.... Read more →

“Can We Not Talk About Sex Right Now?”

by Ronde S. Walch “What class are you taking this semester?” I smile because I know where this conversation is headed when I reply, “Healthy Sexuality.” I am at lunch with three well-educated mothers in their thirties who excitedly launch into their own understanding of... Read more →

Employment and the Family

By Marci Nelson I grew up in a large family. My parents had four sons and four daughters, and we lived a very happy childhood where my siblings and I felt immense love and safety. For as long as I can remember, my dad has... Read more →

The Transgender Agenda Threatening Your Children

By United Families International   Back to School   Summer bucket-lists are checked off, and proud parents are sending their kids on to new adventures as this school year starts. For many the first-day jitters consume child and parent alike. With my oldest I remember... Read more →

A Heartbreaker of a Lie

A Heartbreaker of a Lie by United Families International I don’t watch much on TV these days, I have to admit that I’m a sucker for a good dance show. Lately, I’ve been enjoying NBC’s World of Dance. In the early episodes of this season, a... Read more →

Parental Rights: Who controls the education of your child?

As your children return to school, it is important that parents know that many people, including high-level judges, believe you relinquish your right to control your child’s education the moment your child crosses the threshold of the school door.   In a barely-noticed July ruling, a... Read more →

Child Sexual Abuse: We Must Speak Up

By Jessie Keller It Happens When 5-year-old Janie announced to her mom on the way home from a family picnic, “Michael made me play a game I didn’t like.” Her mother became concerned. Michael was Janie’s 12-year old cousin and had not been seen most... Read more →

Collaboration Through Councils

By McKayla Skinner Each school year is full of new firsts. For some, it may be the entrance into kindergarten, for others new teachers, or even a whole new school. With all the changes that come with a new school year, it can lead many... Read more →

Where Have All the Fathers Gone?

by Courtney Aintablian Fatherless-ness: it is an epidemic. We see it in our schools, work places, churches – you cannot miss it. It has become the “norm” to see a mother raising her children on her own.. What has happened in our society? Have men... Read more →

Supporting New Mothers and Fathers

By McKayla Skinner Sometime after the birth of my third child I came across some family support organizations that help with the transition to parenthood. I had no idea there were so many resources or people experiencing similar things. All I knew was at discharge... Read more →

Old Enough

By Tonya Cox I have a delightful 3-year-old granddaughter named Ellie. She is a girl that knows her own mind and is highly intelligent with an emotional awareness and vocabulary that rivals children many years older. She knows what she wants and often seeks to... Read more →

Distracted Parenting

By Ashley Corbaley We all have seen it: a mom or dad busily scrolling or texting away on their cell phone on the park bench while their children are playing on the playground. Maybe from time to time we are even guilty of it ourselves.... Read more →

The Solution to Gun Violence No One is Talking About

By Miriam Merrill Regardless of which side of the gun control dichotomy you fall on, I think we can all agree on one thing: lives are precious. As the nation tries to make sense of these recent tragic events, several alleged social and political culprits... Read more →

Who Has Your Back

Some people have your back When it comes to protecting the integrity of the family and traditional values, one entity at the United Nations stands out, and that is the Holy See. “Holy See” comes from the Latin Sancta Sedes, which means “Holy Chair” and... Read more →

Five Easy Ways You Can Advocate for the Family Today

By Miriam Merrill Most of us have a desire to advocate for families, but in the midst of frightening headlines and threatening policy proposals it is easy to feel overwhelmed and unsure of where to start. The good news is that there are many inexpensive... Read more →

Perfectly Normal

By Tonya Cox I am sure we can all remember the first time we had the talk about “the birds and the bees.” In my experience, most kids react with disgust at the very notion of sexual intercourse when it is first introduced. I know... Read more →

Growing Up on Social Media

By Ashley Corbaley Take a picture, ask questions later. That is how many parents in the world are doing it these days. From potty training mishaps to awkward first dates, parents are taking pictures and videos of it all and then posting it on their... Read more →

Raising Kids in the Technological Age

By Erin Weist We live in a new time.  The generation raising children now is doing something absolutely new that no one in the history of the entire world has done before:  They are raising children with unprecedented amount of information streaming into their homes... Read more →


By Miriam Merrill The new year brings a chance to start fresh. A clean slate provides the opportunity to try new things, overcome old habits, and better ourselves. Finances, health, and education are all common Google search topics this time of year. But have you... Read more →

Raising Kids That Can Work

By Tonya Cox Growing up as the oldest of six children, Saturday mornings consisted of family work. It was the day to deep clean our home and attend to the yard and every family member had their own assigned tasks. Family work became part of... Read more →

The Nightmare of Neglect

By Elise Ellsworth In recent years neglect and other forms of child abuse have been on the rise.  These include the tragic 2016 case of a young Scottish boy, Liam Fee.  Little Liam was subject to continual physical abuse, had been chained up or locked... Read more →

How Can Life Be More Beautiful?

By Erin Weist I first heard about United Families International several years ago and the message they were promoting immediately resonated with me in my role as a wife and mother. I feel privileged to write for UFI, offering my own perspective on social and... Read more →

Consider the Children

  By Elise Ellsworth On a trip to the Massachusetts, US, shore my husband and I found ourselves in a heated disagreement. The topic has of course escaped my memory, but a family trip had definitely gone sour. As the words of anger flew back... Read more →

School Transgender Bathroom Rules Are Back

By Diane Robertson Hardly anyone can forget how in May of 2016, the Obama Administration made an announcement that under Title IX, all schools receiving any form of federal funding must allow students to use the gendered bathroom of their choice. The issue was in... Read more →

What is Life?

By Christie Masters I recently found myself reorganizing my bookshelf when one of my science books from college caught my eye: “What is Life?” by Erwin Schrodinger. The title gave me pause, especially with the tragedy of little Charlie Gard so fresh in my mind.... Read more →

They, It and Identity

by McKayla Skinner Recently, BBC News published an article entitled Canadian Baby ‘First Without Gender Designation’ On Health Card. The article talks about a non-binary transgender person (neither completely male or female) known as Kori Doty (originally a female), who gave birth to a baby... Read more →

Our Home School Journey

by Diane Robertson As a parent of many children, I have run the gamut of affordable school choices. I started my kids in public school. Dabbled for a couple years in home schooling, tried out a renowned charter school and ultimately pulled my kids out... Read more →

Parenting: Five Better Ways to Communicate

  by McKayla Skinner  Parent-child communication is often challenging. Across time and culture almost all parents have had to confront contention in their homes, and most have realized that they needed to change the communication patterns in their family. As a young mother with three... Read more →

What Fathers Need to Know

by Diane Robertson We need fathers. The politically correct modern notion that as long as a child seems loved and cared for, then it won’t matter who raises the child is just wrong. Children need fathers. Society needs fathers. Mothers need fathers. For years fathers... Read more →

Caught in the Crosshairs

by Diane Robertson Do you remember when gay marriage debates were happening all over and those who did not want it to become legalized would receive the question: How can my marriage affect yours? Since that time, married couples could probably come up with a... Read more →

Giving Too Much of What Looks Good

Guest post by Paola Zorrilla Soto Working parents, unresolved conflict between adults, divorce, separation, stepfamilies, two homes, addictions, long-awaited child, an only child, only grandchild, the oldest child, the youngest child, neglect, abuse, overcompensating a child for different reasons, lack of good parenting skills, and... Read more →

Conversion Therapy: Do You Have a Choice?

by Erin Weist Last year, Feb. 2016, several American groups filed a complaint with the Federal Trade Commission (FTC) against a therapy group claiming to treat unwanted same-sex attraction.  The complaint, brought by the National Center for Lesbian Rights (NCLR), the Human Rights Campaign (HRC),... Read more →

California Wants Your Kids: Part 2

by Diane Robertson Part two of a two-part series examining California’s overreach into the lives of children and families and the rights of parents. The main problem with California’s SRC 41 is that it removes full on decision making about children from the parents and... Read more →

California Wants Your Kids: Part I

by Diane Robertson Part one of a two-part series examining California’s overreach into the lives of children and families and the rights of parents. Californians and parents beware!! In a move to curb the opposition, State Senator Pan, author of the now infamous SB 18... Read more →

Here’s One for the Boys

by Candice LeSueur I remember very distinctly when I realized how great it was to be a girl. I was 16 and was learning, as women, we have attributes that make us unique from men: among a wide array of countless traits, we have a... Read more →

Parents and the Community: A Sex Ed Collaboration

Guest post by Tiffany Anderson and Audrey Edwards When was the last time the birds and bees got together to talk? Our personal sexuality is a big part of our individual identity. Our bodies were made for the amazing purpose of creation. This wonderful power... Read more →

What About Boys?

by Cathi Bond After having two gifted daughters with exceptional language skills, I recognized right off when our third child, a son, was going to need extra help to learn to read. I explained to him that when he learned to read, the entire world... Read more →

Propaganda, Pollution and Gender Dysphoria

by Diane Robertson One does not have to look very far to realize that there has been a global increase in gender dysphoria in children. In recent years, parents have been caught publicly parading their child’s “transformation” from one gender to another. Last year, the... Read more →

California’s Assault on Parental Rights

by Diane Robertson California State Legislature is at it again. This time, they are considering taking the right of parents to make decisions for their children and giving it fully to the state. Introduced on the Senate floor on Dec 5th, SB 18 would, “establish... Read more →

It Takes Two

by Tashica Jacobson It’s been nine long months and I am ready for this baby to come. Throughout these months, though, I have learned many different things; some lessons probably relate to the majority of pregnancies, but some are unique to myself, and some probably... Read more →

Tips for New Parents

by Erin Weist I was thinking today about things I’ve learned about children since first starting out over 10 years ago.  I was embarrassed to think about how little I knew back then and the mistakes that I made as a mother, but I hoped... Read more →

A Happier Way to Live

by Jackie Bowles In light of the upcoming Thanksgiving season, I have been thinking about the power of gratitude. I have seen so many blessings happen in my own life for being grateful. Frequent displays of gratitude seem to bring more goodness into our lives.... Read more →

Looking Back, Planning Ahead

by Diane Robertson I started keeping a personal blog in the early days when blogging was still popular in 2007. I was a young mother with 5 small children and they were and are the topic of that blog. Those 5 young children aren’t so... Read more →

Train up a Child

by Erin Weist Earlier this week I had the experience of being mocked on social media.  If you’ve spent any time online this is not a revelation, the internet can be a brutal place to experience the full attack of opinions clashing with one’s own.... Read more →

Where is the Outrage?

by Diane Robertson Have you ever wondered where is the outrage? When the president mandated that through Title IX all schools receiving any federal funding had to allow students to use the bathrooms, locker rooms, and sports teams according to self-proclaimed gender identity, there was... Read more →


by Ashley Corbaley I recently watched an advertisement that had a powerful message. This video began with ten married couples that were asked the question: “If you could have dinner with anyone living or dead who would you choose?” After several moments of deep thought,... Read more →

For a Moral and Religious People

by Diane Robertson Following the ratifying of the US Constitution, John Adams rightly foretold, “Our Constitution was made only for a moral and religious people. It is wholly inadequate to the government of any other.” Citizens of the United States are getting ready to cast... Read more →

Working Together

by Ashley Corbaley “We often miss opportunity because it’s dressed in overalls and looks like work.” -Thomas A. Edison Growing up, Saturday morning was clean the house day. Other days in the week my brother and I took turns doing certain tasks such as taking... Read more →

The Top Six Reasons Women Cannot Replace Men

by Elise Ellsworth In my last article I indulged in a little uncalled for husband bashing – to which my husband turned a partially blind eye.  I felt bad about this – my husband has saved my bacon in numerous situations, including watching the kids... Read more →

Living in Enemy Territory

I don’t often give parental advice. On the whole, I feel like all your children really need is you, and there are as many ways to be a good parent as there are parents. However, children are growing up in an age where they are... Read more →

Too Much Homework?

by Jackie Bowles Recently a 2nd Grade teacher, Brandy Young in Texas, went viral with her new “No Homework Policy” at Godley Elementary. Ms. Young says, “After much research this summer, I’m trying something new. Homework will only consist of work that your student did... Read more →

Family Traditions

by Whitney Ireland It’s almost October and ads for Halloween costumes and decorations seem to be popping up everywhere. Soon children will be running from house to house dressed up as ghosts, ninjas, princesses, pirates and more as they fill their pillow cases with candy.... Read more →

Be the Difference

by Laura Friend I looked over at my 13-year-old daughter and felt that familiar well of love spring up from deep within my heart – my, she has grown into such a beautiful young woman, I thought to myself. We were on our way to... Read more →

Replacing the Irreplaceable

By Ashley Corbaley When I was younger I accidentally broke a very special family heirloom. After several failed attempts to fix the precious heirloom, I decided to replace it. The replacement, however splendid or similar to the original, did not and could not replace the... Read more →

Mother Knows Best

by Elise Ellsworth “FATSO.”  With indignation, I poke my head out the door.  Again, “fatso.”  “He shouldn’t be calling him a fatso,” I tell my husband.  “I know,” says my husband, completely nonplussed.  It is hard to sit and write at the computer – kids keep... Read more →

Family Bonds

by Tashica Jacobson Family members have a responsibility to each other; and as each member fulfills his role the whole family benefits. There are many benefits that come from having a close relationship among spouses, and between parents and children. When children have a good... Read more →

Does Praise of Another Diminish You?

by Erin Weist   I was listening to a speech recently about the merits of fathers in a society.  The speaker started by saying he didn’t want to marginalize the work and importance of women & mothers, but he wanted to focus at this time... Read more →

The Best Teachers

by Mekelle Tenney   It’s back to school season. Over the next two weeks kids will start going back to school. Education is one of those things that everyone both agrees and disagrees on. I don’t think anyone would argue that education should not be... Read more →

A Bit of Good News for Families

by Diane Robertson The fight to maintain the natural family, parental rights, decency, and a respect for life in a society inundated with media that preaches the opposite is a hard fight. It’s hard to convince people that the opinions they once held about family,... Read more →

Olympic-Sized Faith

  by Christie Masters Whether expressing their faith by giving honor to God, declaring their identity to be in Christ, or in sacrificing their chances of winning to do what is compassionate and honorable, we can find a much needed inspiration in many of the... Read more →

Confusion: Coming to a School Near You

by Diane Robertson The Charlotte, North Carolina school district has established new guidelines concerning transgender students that will mostly go into effect when school starts Aug. 29th. The guidelines said to prevent bullying are definitely confusing. How is this Confusing? First of all, teachers and... Read more →


by Peggy Sturgill We were very good at keeping the family secret when I was growing up. To the outside world, we looked like a normal, happy family, much like the Cleaver family in “Leave It to Beaver.” No one suspected there was a monster... Read more →

We Are Ruled by the Family, Not By the U.N.

by Erin Weist Once again a non-legislative bill introduced by the UN has worked its way into a country, not by the voice of the people but through unelected, unaffiliated bureaucrats with no sense of ownership or investment in the outcome.  Panama, however, is showing... Read more →

Invest in What You Love

by Mekelle Tenney We’ve all heard the cliché “the family that plays together stays together”. Normally I don’t buy into cliché’s. But I make an exception for this one, because it’s true. I believe that families have specific needs in order to create life long... Read more →

Patchwork Families – Loving by Choice

by Laura Friend Family Life Educators, Claudia and David Arp, describe blended families as “patchwork” families. The analogy is apropos. My husband’s grandmother, Anna Laura Tuttle Friend, lived to be 101 years old. Amidst the challenges of raising a large family during the depression and... Read more →

Boy or Girl? Is there really such a big difference?

by Tashica Jacobson The past 5 months has given us additional stressors, anxiety, sweet moments, and tons of excitement. While these could be the emotions of any typical month, ours are amplified because we are expecting a baby, and have started to share the exciting... Read more →

Praise Their Efforts

By Candice LeSueur According to a Columbia University survey, 85 percent of American parents feel it is important to tell their kids they are smart. It seems honorable, but is praising your children for their intelligence really the smart thing to do in the long... Read more →

A Reason for Pro-Life Doctors

by Diane Robertson Years ago while living in Toronto, Canada, I found out that I was pregnant. But things were not going right. It was obvious the pregnancy would end as an early miscarriage. I went to a doctor. The doctor, upon finding out that... Read more →

Am I Not Good Enough to Live?

by Jennifer Johnson On a field trip bus ride I overheard some friends debate the controversial topic of abortion. One friend’s personal comment made the topic real for me. This friend is gifted, smart, one of the most capable people I have ever met. Yet... Read more →

Loved by two

By Lizzy Sabin When we’re young we’re encouraged to find our niche in life. Our personal form of self-expression to help us process hard moments and emotions, which everyone faces. When my teenage mind could no longer handle the things I was experiencing I chose... Read more →

Home school. Is it for you?

By Cinthia Jahnsen Have you ever thought of homeschooling as an option for your child’s education? My kids go to public school right now and I have loved their teachers. However, I do not love how much teachers seem to be losing their authority on... Read more →

Goodbye Old House

By Shanci Christensen The door slammed shut as if it were shouting, “Goodbye old house!”  I locked the door behind him and then stood in the kitchen with my hands shaking and my heart pounding.  “Did I do the right thing?”  I heard a noise... Read more →

Calamity for Parental Rights in Scotland

By: Diane Robertson Parents who do you think is best qualified to listen to, advise, and help your children? Would you name a doctor, a teacher, or a social worker, or do you believe that listening to, advising, and helping your children is your primary... Read more →

Bring Back Family Devotional

by Diane Robertson    A nation can never be better than its families. For much of the history of the United States beginning with the founding of the colonies, families devoted their lives to God. They did not all have the same religious beliefs, but... Read more →

The Marriage Incentive

by Tashica Jacobson There are many benefits that come from marriage. The couple, the children and even society is influenced by marriage. In a study of unhappily married couples, those who stayed together were happily married five years later. (Waite, 2002). While there may be... Read more →

3 Things to Remember When Teaching Children About Sex

By Candice LeSueur I once heard a story about a girl who became pregnant and could not understand why. When she discussed her situation with her therapist, she said, “I didn’t even kiss him. So how could this have happened to me?” It was learned... Read more →

Sugar. Oh Whats in a Name…

By Cinthia Jahnsen Is sugar really as harmful as some make it sound? The answer is “yes.” Agave nectar, brown rice syrup, high fructose corn syrup, dextrose, evaporated cane juice, glucose, lactose, malt syrup, molasses, sucrose. Do any of these sound familiar? Sometimes sugar is... Read more →

Thank you, Dad

by Annalise Jarman Father’s Day is Sunday, and I’d like to take this opportunity to write about my own father. My dad is quiet, studious, and detail-oriented. He can come across as pretty serious and stern. He likes things a certain way. So he might... Read more →

The Importance of Fathers

by Diane Robertson When I was a child, I wanted to be just like my dad. If he asked for mustard on his sandwich, I asked for mustard on mine. If he liked watching Star Trek, then so did I. It really didn’t matter what... Read more →

Forgiveness in the Midst of Trauma

by Candice LeSueur All of us on the train huddled together in the middle section away from the windows hoping to not be discovered by whoever was putting us in danger. My friend and I desperately embraced each other in silence as we horrifyingly awaited... Read more →

Seek and Ye Shall Find

by Erin Weist Trying to write an article this weekend was difficult.  I attended a funeral for a sweet 2-year old, mourning with her family and friends trying to grasp some meaning in this tragedy.  I woke Sunday to news of a mass shooting in... Read more →

Are We Living in a Rape Culture?

by Christie Masters The understandable and warranted outrage against a California judge who recently gave a rapist a lenient six month sentence has brought the terminology “Rape Culture” to the headlines of news articles. There has been a public outcry and a petition circulating to... Read more →

Paying for Free Stuff with Our Freedom

by Rebecca Mallory “Everyone should be required to take economics and civics!” If I had a dime for every time my dad said that to one of his 9 children, I’d be rich. My dad was an economics and math major in college which unfortunately,... Read more →

Tolerating the Rape Culture

by Diane Robertson Early on the morning on Jan. 18 two men riding bikes on the Stanford University campus spotted a man raping an unconscious woman. The man later identified as Brock Allen Turner, a student and swimmer at Stanford University, ran away when he... Read more →

How dangerous can one moment be?

by Cinthia Jahnsen I live in sunny southern CA where pool and beach season can be anytime from March through October, depending on mother natures temperament. As I drive around I always see signs out (huge signs) that say “Prevent Drowning, Alway Watch the Water.”  ... Read more →

Loving Our LGBT Children

By Candice LeSueur It is common for heterosexual parents to feel disappointment, anger, shock, or guilt when their child “comes out.” All other family members may initially have feelings of disbelief or denial as they come to terms with a new reality that becomes a... Read more →

Bullying? Look to the home life.

by Tashica Jacobson The small town of Dietrich, Idaho is in shock over the recent events that transpired between football team members. Last October three boys shoved a coat hanger up another team member’s rectum. This instance was not isolated and came after a long... Read more →

Gorilla Shot or Boy Saved?

by Mekelle Tenney On Saturday a four year old boy fell into the gorilla enclosure at the Cincinnati Zoo. The boy was dragged into a mot by a 450 lbs. silverback gorilla named Harambe. In order to rescue the boy the zoo had the gorilla... Read more →

The Yes to Sex App and the Problems of Promiscuity

by Diane Robertson Every now and then I think of my grandparents and great grandparents and what society must have been like for them. Things were different back then. People married younger and the divorce rate was under 15%. Babies born to unwed mothers was... Read more →

Monkey see, Monkey do

Sexual content and violence on TV and the potential effect it has on our kids.  by Cinthia Jahnsen We all have been there. The awkward moment where we feel that what we are watching on television, or at the movies is not appropriate for our kids.... Read more →

Good Begets Good

by Erin Weist There is a saying that my husband and I use regularly in our home that we’ve learned from having kids: sleep begets sleep.   As naive parents we thought that if our baby or toddler missed a nap it would make him extra... Read more →

Give me that Old Time Religion

by Mekelle Tenney The other day my mom and I came across an old applique pattern from 1905. The pattern was for dish clothes and there was a girl performing a different chore for each day of the week. One day was washing, one was... Read more →

Respectful Dialogues: Starting with Family

  by Candice LeSueur As I watch and listen to opinions being thrown at each other, declaring their stances on presidential candidates or the newly-passed laws associated with gender identity and marriage, I feel a sense of uncertainty polluting the air of our society. I... Read more →

Tolerance is Eradicating the Sexes

  by Erin Weist Just like most weeks, I read a lot of news articles this past week.  And, to be blunt, many of them were frankly frightening.  Most of these articles were surrounding transgender issues.  Gender identity, while still a fledgling area with insufficient... Read more →

Stand your ground, even when it’s moving…

by Christie Masters   Have you ever felt like you were still on the sea even after returning to land? My daughter and I recently arrived home from a four day cruise for her graduation trip and this is exactly what we are experiencing. Standing... Read more →

What will your obituary say about you?

By Cinthia Jahnsen A few days ago, a woman shared a few obituaries with me. She apparently really enjoyed reading obituaries and thought I would enjoy listening to a few. One obituary was about a woman who had died in August of 2008. It said... Read more →

Watch Therefore…

by Erin Weist This morning my husband made an interesting observation.  We were busy in the bustle of trying to get ready to leave the house to go to church (someday I’m sure I’ll understand why this is such a Herculean effort that takes an... Read more →

Do You Have on Your Perspectacles?

by Erin Weist I have 5 young children and my life revolves around them.  It is a beautiful, wonderful life that I never even imagined and I am continually struck by these blessings in my life.  But sometimes, it’s hard.  Sometimes, it’s stressful.  Sometimes (ok,... Read more →

“Sticks and Stones May break my bones…”

 By Cinthia Jahnsen   A look into bullying, its effects and how we can help.   We have all heard the phrase, “Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me.”. I remember saying that to kids who were teasing me... Read more →

SEX sells– are YOU buying?

by Mekelle Tenney What happened to your standards America? What happened to your morality? I am both amazed and disgusted at our entertainment today. Amazed that we can’t find anything other than sex to write and joke about and disgusted that we are entertained by... Read more →

Don’t Want Family? Fine. Just Deal With Loneliness Instead.

by Elise Ellsworth Family life can be a burden. A proliferation of more articles have been written about those who forego marriage in favor of unconnected lifestyles: “I Just Don’t Want a Child.” “The Child-free Life.” “10 Reasons You Don’t Have to Get Married.” “Why... Read more →

“Please Pass the Stress.”

A look into the importance of a balance of activities in the lives of our children. by Cinthia Jahnson “Hurry up! We gotta go! We’re gonna be late!!!” These gentle but firm (perhaps loud) words tend to escape my mouth every time my children and... Read more →

Families are Struggling–Symptoms are Worldwide

The following is taken from the UFI Alert dated April 6, 2016. The following questions were asked a German couple who are well acquainted with what is happening to family values in Germany/Austria and Switzerland. Reading their responses to the following questions, it is apparent that families... Read more →

Speak Now or Forever Hold Your Pee

Kathryn (Simmons) Cook My husband and I sat back in silence for a moment. The title read, “New Bathroom Rule: It’s Worse Than We Thought”. Washington State’s Human Rights commission enforced a law that makes it legal for people to enter into any public restroom... Read more →

Importance of Rituals

by Keely Tanner Is there a birthday, an anniversary or a meaningful day coming up between you and your significant other? Some of us look forward to these celebrations.  But if the truth were made know, we would realize that there are many who dread... Read more →

Get The Conversation Going in Your Community

by Mekelle Tenney This election has me more depressed and concerned for our country than usual. I try my best to do my part as a citizen. I vote, stay informed on the issues, and try my best to learn about my country, its history,... Read more →

A Book Review: The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

by Annalise Jarman I recently finished listening to The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey on audiobook. It is a well-known self-help book on how to have healthy interpersonal relationships. The basic concept is that in order to have healthy relationships with... Read more →

Be Where You Are

by Tashica Jacobson A favorite Buddha quote states “be where you are; otherwise you miss your life.” This can apply to many different things in our lives, but for now let’s look at it through the lens of technology and electronic devices. The advancements in... Read more →

Measuring Family Growth in the Garden

By Ally Fife In this fast paced world of digital dependency, finding ways to have meaningful family time without spending a fortune is rare indeed. To also find something to do that is worthwhile and provides skills to the participants is too much to hope... Read more →

American College of Pediatricians: Gender Ideology Harms Children

by Diane Robertson In a bold yet compassionate medically sound move, the American College of Pediatricians (ACPeds), in eight clear statements, has proclaimed that modern gender ideology harms children. They affirmed that the chromosomal markers of gender, XY and XX, are genetic markers of health... Read more →

Three Keys to Better Relationships

by Keely Tanner Have you ever wondered how you could make your relationships better? Are there things that we, as individuals, can be doing to make our relationships stronger? One thing that we should consider is “What changes can I make?” Too often we think... Read more →

Are “Sexual Rights” Legitimate?

by Christie Masters I had thirty seconds to tell a room full of delegates at our recent County convention why they should vote for me to be a delegate to the State Convention. Standing in line, nervously awaiting my turn, I had listened to those... Read more →

The dangers of Comprehensive Sexuality Education

by Jackie Bowles It may sound good at first, but do the research to really understand all facets.   We’ve all had to endure “Sex Ed” at one point in our lives with its embarrassing movies and uncomfortable topics. Back in the day, while there... Read more →

Unemployment – No Jobs or No Qualified Applicants?

by Rebecca Mallory The government boasted unemployment at 4.9% last month which, if you did five minutes of factual research, would discover that 4.9% is probably unrealistically low. Experts say that with those who are now among the “I give up looking” crowd, numbers are actually... Read more →

How important is Forgiveness? And where do you begin?

by Tashica Jacobson “Now what do you say…” was a common phrase heard in my home growing up. With eight children somedays I’m sure my mom felt like she was always breaking up a fight or encouraging someone to apologize. It wasn’t just that my... Read more →

Overbooked Crisis–Any chance I can get a Babysitter?

By Jackie Bowles As young teenagers, my sisters and I started a babysitting service. We called ourselves “Three Sisters Three Sitters”. I remember babysitting all the time. Sometimes each of us had 3 different jobs on a given day. People knew they could always get... Read more →

Parental Vigilance, Not Political Activism

by Erin Weist Citizens in Australia have been dealing with a politically-motivated scheme trying to force its way into their schools.  The program, entitled “Safe Schools Coalition,” seems useful at first glance.  Its focus is on teaching anti-bullying messages.  However, as parents read more detail... Read more →

Link to the Past to Strengthen the Now

by Ally Fife When I was pregnant with my third child, my in-laws sent me a 500 page, hardbound journal written by my husband’s great great grandmother. Her name was Hannah Jane, and I became obsessed with her over the course of my pregnancy. She... Read more →

Who Really Cares?

by Rebecca Mallory Much has been pontificated about charitable giving and whose responsibility it is to take care of the poor and less fortunate. Who is more effective at caring for the poor? Is it the private individual who feels compassion and a duty to... Read more →

Everything Worthwhile Requires Sacrifice

by Tori Perez It’s been a tough couple of weeks as a mother. When one person gets sick then everyone gets sick and when mom is sick it feels like everything gets thrown off. Or maybe I’m just thrown off because I’m sick. At any... Read more →

Are You Giving the LOVE your Companion NEEDS?

by Keely Tanner Everyone is different in their expressions of love. You might express your love and feel it in a different way than your significant other or others in your family. This is okay because everyone is different, even in expressing and feeling love... Read more →

After the Wedding, #marriageadvice

by Erin Weist I attended the wedding reception of my cousin’s daughter over the weekend.  She was a glowing bride, he was an ecstatic groom, everything was perfect.  It was about a dozen years ago when I enjoyed my wedding day.  Since then my husband... Read more →

What Are the Great Moral Issues of Our Time?

by Christie Masters Senator Bernie Sanders has undergirded his presidential campaign with the declaration that “Income inequality is the great moral issue of our time…” Other political leaders also push free health care, free education and gender equality as the utmost in moral importance. But... Read more →

Socialism – The Big Lie

by Rebecca Mallory It’s not often that a UFI reader will ask me to write about a particular subject. I got a phone call from someone a few days ago who lamented that he was “trying to have an open mind about socialism but after doing... Read more →

Tech-Tethered–Held captive by technology?

by Jackie Bowles A few weeks ago I attended a family reunion. Getting everyone together is very hard to accomplish. As the week progressed, it was interesting to see the interactions between various family members or should I say a lack of interaction. Most were... Read more →

The Government is my Shepherd, I Need Not Work

by Mekelle Tenney We can learn a lot about the American people from election results. Monday marked the start of the 2016 Presidential primary election. I have been listening to analysists discuss the results of the Iowa caucus all day. They have compared voter turnout... Read more →

Where’s the Bonus Coming From

by Tashica Jacobson A common phrase heard over and over during my schooling was “married individuals are happier, healthier, and make more money.” This can seem hard to believe as my husband and I experience the struggle to pay bills and survive the tension of... Read more →

True Empowerment Comes from Choice

by Erin Weist I attended a series of workshops this weekend designed for the women in my area.  We learned about the power of good music in our homes.  We learned about the power of serving other people.  We learned about the power of an... Read more →

Fear Not

By Ally Fife Fear: (verb) To feel a painful apprehension of some impending evil; to be afraid of; to consider or expect with emotions of alarm or solicitude. Having several children with anxiety, talk of fear and trying new things can cause any number of... Read more →

Life Isn’t Fair

by Rebecca Mallory All of us, at one time or another, are brought to our knees because of unexpected events. Trials and tribulation hit each of us whether we’re rich, poor, short or tall, young or old. We all have them. These moments often jolt... Read more →

Understanding Filters in Communication

by Keely Tanner Good communication is an important aspect in our everyday lives. Developing good communication skills can be a pain. Communication for some just comes naturally. And then there are some who struggle with it all their lives.  Is it a skill that should... Read more →

What is the Most Effective Form of STD Prevention?

by Erin Weist *The opinions expressed in this article are mine alone.  Each individual reserves the right to live and choose as they best see fit. I have seen a few articles recently touting the need for greater national exposure to the HPV vaccine, a... Read more →

Can You Help Society With a Family Night?

by Erin Weist Last week Dr. Daniel Mark, an Orthodox Jew and visiting fellow of the Department of Politics at Princeton University, spoke at a private Christian university emphasizing the need for “a family ethic in society.”  Dr. Mark is also a faculty member at... Read more →

Is It Really About Guns?

by Rebecca Mallory They’re back at it again! Stretching the truth about guns. For decades some politicians and others in our society have been trying desperately to render the second amendment to the constitution, and even the constitution itself, useless and old-fashioned. Why is that?... Read more →

Strong Families will end Poverty

by Diane Robertson During a panel discussion on poverty at Georgetown University, President Obama, and Harvard sociologist Robert Putnam chided Christian religious organizations for focusing too heavily on “divisive issues” such as abortion and gay marriage. The New York Times reported that President Obama, “chided religious... Read more →

Education in the Home

by Keely Tanner Parents have so much to consider and to think about as they raise their children. One  important decision involves how their children are educated. Yes, the schools we choose play an important part of their education process, but without the educational process... Read more →

One More Resolution

by Tashica Jacobson If the end of the holiday season wasn’t enough to remind me that the year had ended, then the endless talk of improvement, health goals, and ads for exercise equipment would alert me to the fact that a new year had just... Read more →

What Can You Do to Change the World? These People Are…

by Erin Weist A few months ago we wrote about the World Congress of Families that convened in Salt Lake City, Utah and focused on issues that affect families and family relationships.  I was fortunate enough to attend several of the lectures and am thrilled... Read more →

Who Needs a Father?

By Patrick Williams “You’re one of the good guys!” This is one of the things my father wrote in a birthday card to me some years ago that I never will forget.  Nothing makes you feel like a man than such validation from the man... Read more →

Depression Is Real

by Ally Fife My daughter, who is attending college, called me after a particularly trying day to inform me that according to her psychology professor, depression isn’t real. Apparently it can be controlled by changing our perspective of things.I immediately called him a loser under... Read more →

Women Against ISIS!

By Kay Hill It is my belief that we women can be one of the biggest factors in the fight against ISIS.  Our wonderful troops are fighting on one end, but we women can fight on the other end too — before our youth join... Read more →

Debunking the Dangerous Myths of Sexual Education.

by Jessica Westfall It’s not new news that there are explicit sexual education programs being implemented throughout the western world. It’s hard as a parent to know what to do. In May, Toronto held a boycott against the curriculum, almost 35,000 students didn’t go to school in... Read more →

Scrooges past, “Scrooges” present

by Mekelle Tenney My daughter is five months old today! This will be her first Christmas. Yesterday I took her with me to do some Christmas shopping at the mall. As we walked in and out of the different shops and boutiques I was observing... Read more →

Safe Zones and Just Deserts

by Rebecca Mallory Imagine this little scenario. Your 17 year old son comes to you with a notebook in hand. “Mom and dad, I have some demands I’d like to review with you. First, I’m done doing chores around the house. House work is just too menial... Read more →

Parents, Protect Your Teen’s Time!

by Diane Robertson Parents need to be aware of the heavy expectations that are heaped upon high school kids today. I have 3 High School children and I have been worried about all that is required of them. I’ve had to step back and look... Read more →

Boy or Girl? Don’t decide. Part 2

by Jessica Westfall Editor’s notes:  See Part 1 of this  series here The book, Unnatural Selection by Mara Hvistendahl, outlines the history of population control, abortion, and sex selection from a pro-abortion standpoint. Using this information, I will outline 3 issues regarding this movement: recurring ideas, unrestrained... Read more →

Millennials’ Thoughts on World Congress of Families

By Deborah Wene The Ninth annual World Congress of Families was packed with people from all over the world who came together to talk about the importance of families, the threats that families are facing, and how to go about addressing those threats. In my opinion,... Read more →

Trying to Replace the Basic Unit

Tashica Jacobson Basic, while typically thought of as simple or easy, it is the most crucial to an outcome. For example basic math, which is elementary material is what makes up our ability to solve calculous and trigonometry problems. Replacing that basic understanding with something... Read more →

Boy or Girl? Don’t decide. Part 1

by Jessica Westfall The book, Unnatural Selection by Mara Hvistendahl, outlines the history of population control, abortion, and sex selection from a pro-abortion standpoint. Using this information, I will outline 3 issues regarding this movement: recurring ideas, unrestrained parental control, and the power of unique life. These... Read more →

War or Peace?-Resolving Family Conflict on the Front Lines

by Christie Masters There is something serendipitous about the household being in a bit of turmoil when writing an article on conflict resolution. Peacemaking is constantly being discussed. When I asked my twelve year-old what she thought was the best way to resolve an argument,... Read more →

Don’t Undermine Your Child’s Greatest Assets

  by Jessica Westfall I have always been drawn to the behaviorist approach. The ability to support good behavior and ignore or punish bad behavior and get desired results sits well with me. However, I have been reading Punished by Rewards by Alfie Kohn, and he fights... Read more →

Hope for the family amid anti-family hate

by Mekelle Tenney Last week my husband and I attended the World Congress of Families in Salt Lake City Utah. It was the 9th Congress held since the organizations founding in 1997. With over 3300 in attendance the Congress is the largest pro-family gathering in... Read more →

Feeling small? Getting involved Can have a BIG impact!

by Erin Weist The World Congress of Families was held in Salt Lake City last week.  Amid mild protests from pro-LGBT groups, over 3,000 attendees from around the world gathered to support pro-family speech and activism.  Rather than being “anti-LGBT” the conference focused on what... Read more →

Give me Life

by Brittany Stohlton Our day-to-day actions are preceded by choices, and those choice-based actions are always followed by consequences. Each day in the news there are reports of child abuse, abandonment and death. When the life of a child is at stake, parents, doctors and... Read more →

Are You Available?

By Patrick Williams Are we overly-available to the rest of the world?  Think for a moment.  How hard is it for someone to get a hold of you?  How quick are you to drop everything to respond to a text or check on an update... Read more →

The Home–building competence and character

by Tashica Jacobson Studies, opinions, social science, commonly known facts, and psychology have all shown and continue to show that the single most influential factor in an individual’s life is the family structure that they grew up in. It affects their behavior, education, career choices,... Read more →

Personal Conviction or Government Control?

by Mekelle Tenney Human nature never fails to produce threats to freedom. Strong convictions are a necessary defense against governments, groups, institutions, and individuals who seek dominance over others. Conviction is merely a firmly held belief or opinion. I believe some of the strongest convictions... Read more →

Drugs – What is the cost to society? Part 3

by Jessica Westfall It is interesting to be look at views supporting decriminalization verses tough drug laws. I am encouraged by the views Mr. Hari’s shared in his TED talk. It has better helped me see a drug addict as a person, a person in... Read more →

Contention Begins With Me

by Rachel Mallory Remember that sweet song most of us learned when we were young that stated “Kindness Begins with Me”? Well, through lots of personal experience, I’ve learned that the opposite is also true. Contention also begins with me, even when it doesn’t. Realizing this... Read more →

A Call to Action for Women

by Erin Weist Recently, a leader for The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints spoke out in plea to women everywhere to stand strong in their faith and their calling as women.  President Russell M. Nelson spoke in Salt Lake City, Utah in a... Read more →

Does Your Child Need Kindergarten?

By Beckie Mann Remember kindergarten?  The bright sunny classroom full of toys with a piano in the corner, naptime on little mats, the cute furry classroom mascot, and memorizing the Gettysburg’s address for the school’s President’s Day  picnic.  Oh, wait.  That was a movie, (Kindergarten... Read more →

Bonding, Learning, Becoming…never too late

by Becky Mann Most Saturday afternoons you will find my youngest son and me at the laundromat. While the machines are doing the heavy work, you will hear me reading to my son. You may recognize Jules Verne, Louis L’amour, or J.K. Rowling. My fifteen... Read more →

Feds Will Control Curriculum, Competency and Credentialing

by JaKell Sullivan The federal government has absolutely no constitutional right to control curriculum, but they’re doing it anyway. In a 2011 video for the Whitehouse’s Learning Registry, Steve Midgley, the Deputy Director of Education Technology for the US Department of Education, says that the... Read more →

The Job of the Working Mom

by Mekelle Tenney I recently became an official stay at home mom. My husband and I had our first child three months ago. About three weeks before our daughter was born I clocked out for my last day of work…well my last day of work... Read more →

“Because I Was Raised That Way”

By Deborah Wene Have you ever looked at a couple and wanted to be them because they seem to have the perfect marriage? Many teens experience this. Growing up, I had this perfect marriage in mind and hoped that I would someday find the right... Read more →

Cohabitation and Children’s Well-Being

By: Deborah Wene Families and cultures around the world have different views on cohabitation and there are some who do not see anything wrong with it. A couple of years ago, my older sister decided to cohabitate with her then boyfriend of 2 years. Prior to... Read more →

This Most Important Election, Character Matters

by Rebecca Mallory We hear it every four years. “This is the most important election of our lifetime!” I contend that that somewhat trite statement will never prove more true than in 2016. Never before has the very fabric of America been shredded and torn apart... Read more →

The Need for Parental Rights

By Diane Robertson Parental rights in the United States are under attack. Among imposing state and city laws, to federal regulations, to over-zealous social workers, many parents are finding that their right to educate, discipline, teach independence, and decide what is best for their children’s... Read more →

The World at Your Fingertips

by Mekelle Tenney   Did you know that 76% of Americans reported that they only read one book in 2014? Did you also know that currently Americans only spend 7 minutes of their leisure time each day reading? Now the important question, do you think... Read more →

Born or Unborn – They Matter Too

By: Deborah Wene I was born in a very small town, in a small country with not many resources to help pregnant women. Many women gave birth along the road, on their way to the field or markets, most of which ended up dying because of... Read more →

Parenting is Love and Love is Service

  by Erin Weist Parenting is hard.  Anyone who disagrees has probably never been a parent.  But it is beautiful and worthwhile and honorable and gut-wrenchingly fulfilling at the same time.  Let me explain with an example.  This has been a tough week in our... Read more →

Freedom to be a Family

by Ally Fife   The ideal home is one in which we feel comfort when we enter; where we can let go of the problems of our day and feel safe and loved. Such is not the case for the 90,000 Burundi refugees who have... Read more →

Returning to the Classics

by Erin Weist I subscribe to several newsletters in various forms of social media that cover the topics of popular and newly-published books around the world. I love good literature. It can be ennobling and uplifting and encouraging in its scope to improve oneself and... Read more →

Speak Up for Family and Life

by Diane Robertson There’s this infamous company in Canada, Ashley Madison, which hosts a purportedly secret online dating service for people who are married or in a committed relationship. The company’s slogan is “Life is short. Have an affair.” Customers pay Ashley Madison to help... Read more →

Take the Gender Out of Toys, Not Out of People

by Annalise Jarman Surprised as many of you might be, I actually think Target’s move to take gender labels out of their toy aisles is positive news. Of course gender is important. Of course the current push to live in denial about gender differences is... Read more →

Focus on the Next Generation

by Erin Weist I have four boys. Four wonderful, mischievous, wrestling, tumbling, occasionally smelly little boys. Someday they will be young men. Then they will go on to become men. I burst with pride at this thought, hoping with all my heart they become valiant,... Read more →

For the Love of Children

by Jodi Walker According to the website, over half of America’s children are being raised in daycares. The first time I ever thought about a “daycare child” was before I had children of my own. I was with my friend at a park and a huge... Read more →

Sense Used to be Common

by Diane Robertson Words are powerful. The phrase “the pen is mightier than the sword” has proven to be true. Today good arguments, science, statistics, philosophy, and religion all fail to the powerful word, “Bigot!” Every discussion ends at that one word. Bombs, guns, or... Read more →

Other People’s Children

by Ally Fife It was finally a sunny day after days of rain. My children were so excited to run outside and play. I glanced out the window to see how things were going, when I realized the whole neighborhood was in our backyard. Not... Read more →

What your child really needs for school this year

by Kelsi Shipley It’s one of my favorite times of the year: Back to School. As a child I always loved the smell of new notebooks, crayons, and markers. It’s no surprise that I became a teacher. Right now, stores all around the country are... Read more →

A Letter to my Children: Please Choose Marriage

by Erin Weist Someday I hope my children make it a priority to get married. I know it will only get harder to keep the traditions of family-building alive, rampant as societies are with self-serving choices. I wanted to write a letter in hopes of... Read more →

Do Parents Matter?

by Mekelle Tenney Do children need both mom and dad? This has become a very controversial question. Do children do best in a home where both the mom and dad are actively involved in their child’s life? This question has been brought up several times... Read more →

More than two Parents: Not so New and Not so Enlightened

by Diane Robertson In 2013 California made it legally possible for children to have more than two parents. More states will surely follow suit. The diversity-in-family-structure-loving-liberals think this is enlightened. They’re working hard to bring society out of the dark ages of Married mother and father families... Read more →

What is Happening to Society

by Diane Robertson A restaurant owner in Portland, Maine has gotten national attention and sparked a debate after yelling at a screaming 21 month old baby girl in her restaurant and then ranting about it on Facebook. The owner, Darla Neugebauer, asked the customers to... Read more →

The Wonder and Certain Need of Family

by Rachel Allison This past weekend my three sisters and I assembled for some much needed emotional strengthening. Our conversations focused on the battles that our children and grandchildren are facing, and how we as women of faith could fortify and support them against the... Read more →

Another Anti-Life, Anti-Health, and Anti-Family Policy

by Diane Robertson Policy makers in the state of Oregon must love irony. A new health policy allows teens as young as 15 to obtain hormone suppression supplements and surgery to alter their gender without parental permission. The state will even subsidize the cost for... Read more →

What’s New at your Kid’s School?

by Rebecca Mallory Remember back in the olden days when you were punished for doing something wrong in school? Remember when the really bad guys were suspended for fighting, stealing or cheating? Remember when you could opt out of Sex Ed if you felt uncomfortable?... Read more →

“Legislation in the Home: My Fear for the Future”

by Erin Weist The media stories that have been overwhelming my news feeds lately have dealt with the transition of the traditional family. They have covered the current dogma of the fluidity of gender, the worldly view of traditional parental roles that are seen as archaic,... Read more →

Five Great Ways to make Family the Priority

by Caitlin Woolbert I know the summer is part way over, but I have a great idea for you! Make family time a priority. Seems simple enough? Wrong! Everyday life is busy. Summer life is even busier. This summer is a great time to start... Read more →

Pandora’s Box Wide Open

by Rebecca Mallory  Well America, here we are, front row seat witnesses of what happens to a society that throws all morals and righteousness out the window. These past few weeks have proven to the world that words and laws mean absolutely nothing to America’s... Read more →

Is Redefining Marriage Removing Children from Society?

By Trishia Van Orden A young mother walks into a room and where her two children are watching television. As the mother sits down on her couch she pulls out a book. After a few minutes, her children notice their mother reading. Immediately they turn... Read more →

Waiting on the Supreme Court

by Diane Robertson Before this month is over, the U.S. Supreme Court will rule on marriage laws for all 50 states. The questions the Supreme Court must answer are: Does the Fourteenth Amendment require a state to license a marriage between two people of the... Read more →

Who is Affected in the Fight?

by Emily Black When people hear that I am an advocate for traditional marriage, the first question that bursts forth is always, “Well, do you actually know anyone who is gay?” as if my not knowing anyone would be reason to condemn my stance on... Read more →

My Dad will always be King

by Caitlin Woolbert My Dad is a great example to me. One of the greatest lessons I learned from my Dad is the importance of telling your children how much you love them. Children don’t just know they are loved. They need to be told.... Read more →

The Degradation of Moral Goodness

by Fae Emily Love What do you and I have in common with a celebrity like Marilyn Monroe? Probably more than you think. We are all human beings. We all make mistakes, and we all live lives that everyone has opinions about. How do we... Read more →

What Father’s Need to Know

by Diane Robertson We need fathers. The politically correct modern notion that as long as a child seems loved and cared for, then it won’t matter who raises the child is just wrong. Children need fathers. Society needs fathers. Mothers need fathers. For years fathers... Read more →

Confusion Conclusion

by Marlene Hinton Robert Ludlum begins his book, The Bourne Identity with Jason Bourne as an amnesiac looking for clues as to who he is.  His first tip is when a gun is tossed to him and he is told to take it apart and reassemble it,... Read more →

Forests and Families

by Tom Christensen When driving through the arid national pine forests of Montana, Colorado, Utah and Arizona, one cannot help but notice large numbers of dead trees.   Mountain pine beetles about the size of a grain of rice bore into, lay their eggs, feed on... Read more →

Stress: Change the Norm

by Kelsey Shipley On a scale from one to ten, how would you rate your personal stress level? Recently the American Psychologist Association (APA) conducted their annual “Stress in America Survey.” On scale from 1- -10 parents rate their overall stress as a 5.7. A healthy... Read more →

Watch out. It may be consuming your family

There is this thing called “media” and it devouring many families.  What about yours? By Marissa Simpson There was a time in high school when I found myself overwhelmed with academic and athletic demands, as many high school students do. I remember my frustration when... Read more →

Yes! Family Love is Possible!

by Nathalie Bowman I write what’s in my heart. I don’t study statistics or research papers. I write what I know to be true. As this is my last blog post for United Families International, I want to share some thoughts from my heart about... Read more →

Adult children Need Support Too!!!

Rachel Allison It has been over nine years since my father passed away. Over the past couple of days I have been thinking of him a lot. My Dad was a man of few words, but life’s lessons had given him a wisdom that enriched each... Read more →

What’s My Role? – The Grandparent Dilemma… or Opportunity?

by Chuck Malone Indeed one of the most fascinating, albeit frustrating, challenges facing any family unit is trying to understand and adjust to changing roles. The constant challenge to the definition of family in today’s changing environment makes that challenge even more difficult. In a... Read more →

Marriage, the Kitchen, and the Bedroom

Tashica Jacobson Laura Bunker’s recent UFI alert struck a cord with me, and I haven’t been able to get her message out of my mind. Not only did it bring up this year’s trip to the UN, which brought up wonderful memories for me, she... Read more →

Children Need Their Mommies More Than “Success”

Nathalie Bowman I glanced at my mail and read the headline of a local advertising magazine: “7 Reasons why high quality preschool matters for your child.” Among the 7 things were “Get Ahead”, “Success”, and “Test Scores”. Why would I be worried about my 3... Read more →

Family-together Time…It’s worth the effort!

Caitlin Woolbert Families are becoming busier and busier in their schedules and are involved in more activities outside of the home. Researchers have studied children of all ages and looked at whether age influences the amount of time a child is willing to spend participating... Read more →

Ever Yet Wave

Erika Walker As the saying goes, “you never know what you’ve got ‘til it’s gone”. This is especially true of freedoms. It isn’t until a right is threatened or taken away altogether that you truly appreciate its significance. For instance, the American flag. Most of... Read more →


Chuck Malone Time is Limited! As co-parents of 5 active children, my wife and I determined early on that we would only have a limited time to create lasting and hopefully character building experiences as a family. We watched older children of other family’s, age... Read more →

Helping Our Children Understand Shame

Kristen Jan Cannon An important parenting lesson that many parents often fail to learn is helping children understand the major difference between shame and guilt. Unfortunately, adults often don’t understand this concept themselves, and mixing these two very different emotions up can be detrimental to... Read more →

You Only Have One Mother

Erika Walker I recently became reminded of a television show that I watched occasionally in high school. The program centered around a close-knit mother-daughter duo who reside in a small town. Throughout the show, the closeness of their relationship is attributed to the fact that... Read more →

10 Reasons Why We Have a Culture of Death

Diane Robertson Sometimes I think our world has turned upside down. We neither respect life nor the means by which life is created. In some instances, we have changed the words murder and killing to softer words like abortion, euthanasia, mercy killing, and death with... Read more →

What You Say Matters

Kelsi Shipley Recently I had a conversation with an adorable five-year-old boy. At one point he confided in me that he thinks his mom is a negative person. Knowing this boy’s mother, I was surprised by the accusation, and assured him she wasn’t. We talked... Read more →

Marriage Anybody’s Way

Gary Boyd Proponents of same-sex marriage have won ground over their opposition during the last two decades. In a rather scary, yet perfectly logical article, Joseph Farah gives us an idea of what may be coming next. This past Valentine’s Day, Thailand saw a three-way... Read more →

Do we Really Need Dads?

Erika Walker In the realm of family studies the role of mothers is often researched and discussed. After all, between the two parents mothers typically spend the most time with their children, and are therefore responsible for the majority of the teaching, comforting, disciplining, and... Read more →

Bullying? Seriously?

Gary Boyd As a blogger for UFI, I scan the news each week for stimulating news to write about and comment on. Sometimes, I struggle, taking a while to find anything that I can say anything meaningful about. This week, however, I went almost immediately... Read more →

Is This Not Tyranny?

Diane Robertson Tyranny is defined as cruel and oppressive government or rule, or cruel, unreasonable, or arbitrary use of power or control. Countries that embrace religious freedom are typically free from tyranny, while those nations who insist on certain beliefs lean toward tyranny. Nations with... Read more →

Progress Not Perfection

Nathalie Bowman The Quest for Perfection is all consuming. Many women have an ideal of the perfect life, and beat themselves up for not being able to attain it, or they put on a mask and pretend they’re perfect even though they know they’re not.... Read more →

Rights vs. Laws

 Rebecca Mallory        No doubt you have witnessed in the past few weeks, months, or years, people from different groups wielding signs declaring their RIGHTS! They have a right to a living wage, they have a right to a job, they have a right to... Read more →

No, Mama, Money Can’t Buy My Love

Elise Ellsworth Christian preacher and theologian Peter Marshall once counseled a couple whose family was being ripped apart by excessive materialism – “What good is a beautiful house,” he asked, “filled with expensive furniture, if there isn’t any love between those who live inside the... Read more →

Who Should Provide the Care?

Diane Robertson Last December the Supreme Court heard arguments about the workplace and pregnancy. A pregnant employee wanted UPS to accommodate her pregnancy by switching her to a job where she would not have to lift heavy packages. UPS refused, so the woman took unpaid... Read more →

Family Read Aloud: “The Wizard of Oz” Series

Nathalie Bowman There is a familiar tune that goes something like this: “The Wonderful Wizard of Oz…Because, because, because, because, because! Because of the wonderful things he does!” As we remember this tune, we imagine Dorothy, Toto, the Tin Man, the Scarecrow, and the Lion... Read more →

Take a Vacation…You need it more than you realize

Caitlin Woolbert So many sources today steal time away from our families. They try to get our children to place priority and trust in the wrong places such as media or popularity. As wonderful as it is to have friends, what our kids really need... Read more →

Stress with Families

Tashica Jacobson Many joys come from family life. It allows us to be in a situation where we can give and receive love, feel fulfillment, and accomplish goals. But that does not mean that it is without its challenges. Having a family and even dealing... Read more →

What About the Children?

Name withheld I recently came across a letter written by a woman who was raised by lesbian parents. In this letter, her thoughts are directed to a Supreme Court justice, and she goes onto explain to him that redefining marriage in society will ultimately fail... Read more →

Who cares more: Government or Parents?

Diane Robertson Parental rights come naturally from the conceiving, birthing and rearing of children. It’s not just a natural right, but a biological right. Children are tied to their parents through care and through genetics. Parents not only have the right to their children because... Read more →

Childproofing your marriage

What to do to keep that marital spark alive and well… Erika Walker Most people believe that after marriage, the next natural step in a couple’s life is parenthood, but after I got married, the thought of becoming a parent terrified me. Not because I... Read more →

“Porn Proof” Your Kids

Nathalie Bowman “You would never expect your child to be successful in school without learning the skills of reading and basic math. In the same way, kids cannot be expected to be successful at avoiding the traps of pornography without simple but powerful media defense... Read more →


If a parent does not provide meaningful activities for the child, the world will do it for them. Chuck Malone As a teenage product of the 60s I was constantly aware of the generation motto “If It Feels Good, Do It.” Later in life as... Read more →

The Benefits of Adoption

700,000 teen pregnancies each year: Decisions made have lasting impact. Kristen Jan Cannon According to, approximately 3 in 10 teenage girls will get pregnant in the U.S. each year. That equates to 700,000 teen pregnancies annually! For such cases, adoption is a phenomenal route... Read more →

Don’t Let the Measles Destroy Parental Rights

Diane Robertson Someone with the measles went to Disney Land and suddenly the ongoing vaccination debate explodes. Many angry parents, and pediatricians call for the government to intervene and force everyone to vaccinate their children. Some have even called for children to be taken away... Read more →

The Greatness Gift

Nathalie Bowman If you’ve ever been around a newborn baby, you know there is something special about that perfect, new little life. Each new little person born has their own unique personality and is filled with love and the potential to succeed at life. It’s... Read more →

Family Read Aloud: “Carry On Mr. Bowditch”

Nathalie Bowman Do you want a great story you and your children will love? A story that is rich in history as well as adventure? Try “Carry On Mr. Bowditch” by Jean Lee Latham. Winner of the 1956 Newberry Medal, this book tells the story... Read more →

The Goal of Parenting

Tashica Jacobson There are many things that parents try to accomplish with their children. They try to get them to eat vegetables, do homework, and keep up on household chores. But what is the ultimate goal of parenting; what should parents really try to accomplish?... Read more →

Kids are People Too-Listen to Them

Do you extend to your children the same courtesies that you offer to your friends? By Nathalie Bowman The other day as I was making dinner, my son came to me with a question. He kept going on with details. I knew the situation and... Read more →

America’s Need for Family

Mekelle Tenney The Center for Disease Control and Prevention published a study conducted in 2013 that stated the following: 20% of high school students reported having had five or more alcoholic drinks in a row 18% of high school students reported having had a drink... Read more →

Have Some Respect…For Your Children

By: Kristen Jan Cannon There are many cases where children are reprimanded or scolded for lacking respect for their elders. We’ve all probably been there. “Don’t talk to your mother like that!” or “Have some respect for your father!” are common phrases used to put... Read more →

Bring in a Peaceful New Year

Nathalie Bowman It’s 2015. Shouts of “Happy New Year!” are fading away and your New Year’s resolutions are needing some attention. Or not. I must admit, I don’t have “resolutions” this year. Or any year. I’m not a natural at setting goals. I have other... Read more →

Work is Sweet!

Some intriguing facts on the value of work and how it can impact your children’s lives. By Maralee Turner Success is achieved through work. In fact, all admirable men and women, husbands and wives, and mothers and fathers have a developed a strong work ethic.... Read more →

Strengthening the Family…#1 Resolution

Tracy Allen Aren’t we all motivated by the turning of the calendar?  December thirty first of each year not only causes many of us to turn our thoughts to the past twelve months, but also to face the next twelve months with hope and resolution... Read more →

Maybe Christmas, Perhaps, Means a Little Bit More

Sometimes we find ourselves thinking and worrying about all that is wrong in the world. Yet, there’s much that is right and good. Diane Robertson To my children tonight, I read the words, “Every Who down in Who-ville, the tall and the small, Was singing!... Read more →

Attack on Marriage from the US Census Bureau

Nathalie Bowman I received an email this morning that caught my attention. It was from Dr. Jennifer Roback Morse of the Ruth Institute, which works to defend and heal the natural family.  The email explained that the United States Census Bureau “is in the process... Read more →

Parenting: Disciplinarian or Loving Listener?

Rachel Allison My husband and I have totally different parenting styles. I have often wondered how I ended up being the strict disciplinarian.  He on the other hand had an open-door policy with our children.  Any time a discussion or heart to heart conversation was... Read more →

My Dicken’s Christmases

Written by Beth Whitaker as told to Rebecca Mallory Last weekend my family held the big annual family Christmas party in Utah. I unfortunately came down with a cold and couldn’t go. I was feeling very sorry for myself until my darling sister sent me what she... Read more →

Prayers for the Families in Pakistan

Diane Robertson As I put my children to sleep in their safe, warm beds, my heart and prayers go out to the grieving parents in Peshawar, Pakistan, who will not be putting their children to bed this night or any night again. On Dec 16th,... Read more →

Video Gaming: Be Very Careful

Rachel Allison This post may offend some of our readers.  If I say something that hits too close to home, just honestly evaluate your child’s involvement and if necessary ignore my observations. My children grew up during the skate-board craze in our neighborhood.  All of... Read more →

Ashamed of being a mother?

Tashica Jacobsen In fifth grade we made dream catchers at school. Our schools theme that year was “catch the dream,” and so in the center of each one, on a piece of clay, we carved what it was we wanted to be when we grew... Read more →

America Needs Strong Families

Diane Robertson If you have been watching the news, listening to the radio, following twitter, or even just browsing your Facebook feed, it would have been impossible to miss the unrest occurring in the streets around the nation. Maybe you’ve had conversations with your friends... Read more →

Family Traditions

Nathalie Bowman As I sat on my rocking chair unwrapping ornaments for our Christmas tree, our children gleefully hung the ornaments. Somehow, it has become a family tradition to decorate the tree this way. I sit with several shoe boxes and gift bags full of... Read more →


Maddie Gillel Our family was flying a kite a few years ago, having a great time watching the kite fly higher and higher. One of the grandchildren asked what would happen if we cut the string? She thought it would surely continue climbing higher and... Read more →

Consciences are Important

Diane Robertson In the fourth grade while a couple of boys sat crying outside the classroom, my teacher sat the rest of the class down and explained that these boys were crying because their conscience hurt. They had been involved in a fist fight during... Read more →

A Return to Stability

Tashica Jacobson Embarrassingly I admit that four years ago many of my attitudes were anti-family. Now don’t jump to conclusions I wasn’t an extremist. However I was at the point that I had given up on the ideal of marriage. I had seen so many... Read more →

Ways to Save the World and Reduce the Population

Diane Robertson If I had a conversation like, “Do you want to know what the UN is doing now?” And then actually repeated some of the information in the UNFPA’s State of World Population report on youth , no one would believe me. They would... Read more →

Read Aloud Family Classics

Nathalie Bowman As parents in this generation, many of us experience technology battles daily. Video games, ipads, computer time, and smart phones all battle for our children’s attention. With games, music, the internet, and all kinds of things to keep kids occupied, more and more... Read more →

“One Nation under Godlessness”…ya think?

My husband is a judge. On a weekly basis he sees youth in his court who are delinquent, unmotivated, and often times defiant. These young men and women are most often accompanied by a frustrated parent. At some point in the conversation my husband asks... Read more →

Historic Interfaith Conference

Diane Robertson With marriage and natural family relationships in decline, Pope Francis invited leaders from different faiths around the world to gather at the Vatican this week. This historical interfaith conference titled, The Complementarity of Man and Woman brought religious leaders from 23 nations, and... Read more →

Families in the Kitchen

Nathalie Bowman “Mom, can I crack the eggs? Now can I stir it?” asked my 6 year old with eager anticipation. We were making yummy pecan tarts, and my son couldn’t wait to get them done so he could eat them. With the holidays right... Read more →


Maddi Gillel Beverly was six or seven when her parents divorced. She had a brother just 2-3 years older and 2 sisters older than that. Her mother, of course, had to go to work, and just as important, find a new man in her life.... Read more →

Mom Shame

    Rebecca Mallory We thought there was pressure raising our four girls during the 80’s. All four girls are now very busy wives and mothers but believe me, my life was cake compared to theirs.  In the 80’s my diaper bag said “Safeway” on... Read more →

Only Men Can Father

Diane Robertson New Research being conducted on the differences between mothering and fathering has found that children need to the complimentary parenting styles from both genders. Jenet Erickson, research sociologist and author for the Deseret News, presented research that is being conducted, and not yet... Read more →

What Can Fathers Do?

Nathalie Bowman “Dad, wanna play catch?” The morning was beautiful, the mountain air was crisp and clean, and playing catch with dad was the order of the day. We grabbed our mitts & ball from the camp trailer and off we went to throw the... Read more →

Something Wicked this Way Comes…

Contemporary sex education prepares young men and women not for the fullness of friendship, intimacy and love, but for casual relationships and recreational sex. A 1962 fantasy novel, later made into a Disney movie, borrowed its title from Shakespeare’s Macbeth:  “Something Wicked This Way Comes.” ... Read more →

Make the Choice

Mekelle Tenney Over the last 50 years the fertility rate among Americans has dropped from 3.65 to 1.89. The rate of households with one child or more under the age of 18 has also made a significant drop from 48.8% to 32.3%. In 2010 only... Read more →

Only Women Can Mother

Diane Robertson New Research being conducted on the differences between mothering and fathering has found that children need to the complimentary parenting styles from both genders. Jenet Erickson, research sociologist and author for the Deseret News, presented research that is being conducted, and not yet... Read more →

Are Mothers “Full and Equal Participants in the Economy”?

Nathalie Bowman Over the past few days, there has been an uproar among conservative Americans surrounding President Obama’s speech on October 31 at Rhode Island College. After he opened with a few jokes, mentioned going trick-or-treating with Michelle because his girls “are too old” and... Read more →


Maddi Gillel Have you ever heard of this phrase? This is one of the most important phrases in a person’s life and in our culture – it would make a huge difference in a person’s life and in our culture if it were present in... Read more →

5 Tips for Mothers

Diane Robertson This is part one of a three part series on parenting. I have been reading through some new and very interesting research that is being conducted on mothering and fathering. I am going to start from a personal view as a mother of... Read more →

Women as Breeders?

Nathalie Bowman As same-sex marriage becomes legal across the country, same sex parenting is entering the picture now more than ever. What is the long term effect on children raised in the LGBT world? What of the women who are used to grow babies and... Read more →

Captured Moments—Cherished Memories

By Rachel Allison Several years ago my husband traveled through France where he met a family who had just recently moved ten miles out of town.  This meant that the family’s two teenage daughters had to be driven to town each morning for school, and... Read more →

The Wheately Conference: The Supreme Court Decided, Now What?

Diane Robertson Yesterday I had the unique opportunity of attending a 4 hour long conference hosted by the Wheately Institute and titled: Family is Crucial: Views from Law and Social Science. Sherif Girgis, Ryan T. Anderson, Mark Regnerus, and Jenet Erickson spoke. These speakers have... Read more →

39: It’s Time to Reflect

Diane Robertson I turned 39 today! Yup, that’s right. Today is my 39th birthday. Next year, I will be the big 4-0. A lot has happened in my almost forty years. I remember how in the fourth grade I was asked to draw a picture... Read more →

Pornography and its impact on parenting

Pornography is seeping into family life in a myriad of unexpected and devastating ways. by Allison Cook Ninety-seven  billion. This was the total revenue made in 2006 off of pornographic websites worldwide (Getting Serious, 2010). In 2005, 56 percent of all divorce cases involved one... Read more →

Born to “Stand for the Family”

Nathalie Bowman Yesterday was a normal day. OK, it was not normal, it was my birthday! But I did the routine thing and took two of my teenagers and three other teens to school 25 minutes away. On the way home, I did something out... Read more →


Maddi Gillel Yes, you hafta !!!!! How many times have we as parents, heard this from our children when we ask them to clean their rooms, practice the piano, mow the lawn, take out the trash? This article is for you parents who need some... Read more →

Determining Good, Better, or Best

Rebecca Mallory It was a crisp fall day nearly 20 years ago that I was frantically driving a carpool of girls to their mandatory dance class for all company performers four days a week right after school. Among them was my daughter, Brooke who was... Read more →

Freedom for Women?

Nathalie Bowman It seems silly to bring this up. After all, women are more free in this day and age than in any other time in history. But has the “freedom” of women really made them more free? The Women’s Liberation movement freed women’s bodies... Read more →

Starting with Breakfast

Mom had a special way of making a task seem less daunting when I was growing up. Her deportment was kindness, shown through soft and encouraging words, through quiet acts of service, and through her genuine belief in our ability to do hard things. Every... Read more →

Is the Ideal for Real: Positive Discipline Parenting

A debate is currently raging over appropriate forms of discipline.  So what might “appropriate” discipline look like? By Nathalie Bowman This is the final piece in a 3 part series. Read Part 1: Is the “Ideal” for Real? and Part 2: Is the Ideal for... Read more →


Maddi Gillel Have you ever been trying to get somewhere, such as in a different city, state, or country? Did you have a map? Did you speak the language so that you could ask? We’ve all been in this situation. Some of us are born... Read more →

What, Me Worry?

Rebecca Mallory Anybody out there old enough to remember the old MAD Magazine icon Alfred E. Neuman? Every issue donned his face with the same goofy look of complete oblivion to life. Not a care in the world. That goofy face should have donned the... Read more →

A Rational Basis for Marriage

Diane Robertson We live in a time that many refer to as an “age of entitlement”. There are books and papers written about parents hassling teachers to give their children higher grades, or bosses talking about parents calling them up to tell them they have... Read more →

Is the Ideal for Real: Peaceful Parenting

Nathalie Bowman This is the second in a three part parenting series. Read Part 1 here. Peaceful parenting…..what kind of thoughts come to your mind as you read those words? Do you ever “lose it” with your children, then afterwards, you wonder where that came... Read more →

In the Garden

Evan Crockett I remember working in the garden with my father. As a boy, it was hard to see beyond the seemingly unpleasant task at hand—the physical labor required get the job done. He often asked for my help in tilling the dirt at the... Read more →


        Diane Robertson Experiencing the birth of my own ten children has taught me something about pain and endurance. When I had my first baby, I was not prepared for the pain. The earlier pains of labor crippled me and brought tears... Read more →

Family Favorite Read Aloud

Nathalie Bowman Well, things got away from me this week as I began homeschooling and going back to school myself, so somehow I didn’t give myself enough time to create a thoughtful and meaningful “Part 1” to follow up last week’s post. Please forgive me... Read more →

Too Many People…

  The next time you think that everyone else sees the world as you do, remember the following. Read more →

Is the “Ideal” for Real?

If you could create the ideal home for your family, what would that look like? What would it include? By Nathalie Bowman Think about this question in terms of the physical ideal if you’d like, but more importantly, think about the environment you’d like to... Read more →

A Personal Stand Against Child Abuse

The article was shocking. It was a story of a mentally handicapped boy who was seen being pushed by his father while at a local school. Officers took a closer look into this situation and found that the boy “smelled of urine and feces.” He... Read more →

Attentive to Habit

My father wanted me to be as well prepared for life as I could be. He was attentive and took time to correct misconduct when needed. He was home enough, and I was into mischief enough, that it seemed I was in “the doghouse” throughout... Read more →

Your Life of Happiness

Nathalie Bowman Let’s face it. We live busy lives. Run here. Run there. Drop off the kids. Pick them up. Pick up dinner, put the kids to bed, wake them up, get them to school, and do it all over again. When does the routine... Read more →

Male, Female, Etc.

Kristen Jan Heimuli  The popular phrases, “It’s a boy!” and “It’s a girl!” are now outdated, old-fashioned themes for baby showers everywhere. Gender has moved from two types to over 50. In fact, as of February of this year, Facebook has provided a list of... Read more →


Maddi Gillel We have all known those in life and in cinema who were naturally fools, deliberate fools, and fools by default. Napoleon Dynamite is a funny movie. My husband and children and I have had our share of laughs at some of the lines... Read more →

You Might Be a Racist…

by Rebecca Mallory       Do you believe in the constitution, individual rights, adhering to and obeying the law of the land? If so, you might well be a racist. Yup. You could be a bigot, homophobe racist. You’re labeled simply for your core beliefs in... Read more →

Debating Marriage

by Diane Robertson As the many marriage cases move through the court system supporters of marriage often find themselves in conversations in which they must defend their stance on marriage and family. This can be a very stressful conversation. Even the best and smartest debaters... Read more →

Grandmother’s Wisdom

by Nathalie Bowman Last week my grandmother passed away peacefully in her sleep. She was almost 92 years old. Grandmothers have wonderful life lessons to share. The wisdom of Grandma Nielsen: Gambling is NOT allowed. One year, when I was 16 or 17, one of... Read more →

Religious Freedom: A Human Right

by Diane Robertson In the United States, there has been a battle of words and ideas that has extended to the legislatures and into the court houses. Many people have felt called upon to fight the battle for religious freedom. These people want to be... Read more →

The Truth About Porn

By: Kristen Jan Heimuli              It’s a $57 billion a year industry worldwide; $12 billion right here in the U.S. Its revenue is larger than all combined revenues of professional basketball, football, and baseball franchises. It transcends the combined revenues of ABC, CBS, and NBC... Read more →

Fill the Love Bank with Play

by Nathalie Bowman It was a beautiful Sunday afternoon. Dinner was over and my husband and I remained at the table, enjoying a conversation without the noise of the family. I glanced out the window and watched three of my sons and my daughter play... Read more →

Same-Sex Marriage: Harmless or Harmful?

Which parent – mom or dad – would you like to do without?  Is same-sex marriage as harmless as its proponents claim? April Poulter and Jessica Widenhouse Have you ever sat on a high balcony of an auditorium while attending a play, or stood in... Read more →

Joining the 21st Century

Are your beliefs regarding marriage as being one man and one woman really so prehistoric? Diane Robertson If you believe that marriage should not be redefined or perhaps that children need both their mother and their father, then it is possible you have been told... Read more →

Grab a Hold of Inspiring Parenting

Kids don’t come with an instruction manual, but there are some simple tips to help all of us become more effective parents. Nathalie Bowman Any parent who has joyfully welcomed a baby into their family knows the feeling of excitement and love that comes with... Read more →

Let It Go…

Nathalie Bowman Letting go of the Rope of Good Intention and letting love in can be a challenge, but it can be done, and it will be freeing for both the parent and the child! The following are four ways to begin letting go of the... Read more →

The Unthinkable: Not for Your Child

Having to live through sexual abuse as a child is one of the hardest things to have to deal with, and can really impact a child’s life. To have an uncle that you thought loved you so much but then to realize that he loved... Read more →

More than two Parents: Not so New and Not so Enlightened

Diane Robertson In 2013 California made it legally possible for children to have more than two parents. More states will surely follow suit. The diversity-in-family-structure-loving-liberals think this is enlightened. They’re working hard to bring society out of the dark ages of Married mother and father... Read more →

The Rope of Good Intention

Nathalie Bowman Audrey was a happy go lucky child with a vivid imagination and loved making other people happy. She had dreams and talents galore-or at least she thought she did. As she grew up, she began to focus on the things she liked most.... Read more →

Simple Steps

by Joseph Moore One night after arriving home from a school dance, I found my parents watching old movies together on the couch. As soon as they heard me come through the door, they moved to the kitchen to listen to my stories and adventures... Read more →

Junior’s Achievement

(2 of 3 in a Series of Entrepreneurial Adventure) by Rebecca Mallory It’s been two weeks since you started your own business, right? Or perhaps you’ve been waiting patiently for the “how to’s” in launching your teen into entrepreneurial success. You’re in luck, because today,... Read more →

Stink-Bug Fudge: Now Approved for all Appropriate Audiences

Samantha Anderson When my grandpa, Leland, was 10 years-old, sugar was hard to come by, so sweets were particularly special.  On one occasion, Leland was left alone while his parents were preparing to entertain company.  Seizing this opportunity, he decided to make fudge in order... Read more →

Marriage and the “Living Love” Potential

Nathalie Bowman   (Note: this is the second in a three part series. Click Here for the introduction of Living Love, and here for Part 1: It starts with you)   Have you ever driven on the freeway through pelting rain? Where I live, it... Read more →

Common Core: Ushering in Sodom

Roseann Salanitri on June 25, 2014 in Faith & Family,   Last year I wrote an article entitled “Resurrecting Sodom”[i]. In it I chronicled seven events in our nation’s history that I believed were leading us down a path that would end at Sodom’s front door. The advent of... Read more →

Me? Start a Business? How?

Rebecca Mallory You’ve heard it said a million times: “There are two kinds of people. Those who make it happen and those who sit back and watch it happen.” That is so true! I asked some people this past week what they would love to... Read more →

Living Love: It starts with You!

Nathalie Bowman “Mommy, let’s paint it purple!” my daughter exclaimed as we were playing at a school playground on a Saturday morning. She handed me an imaginary paintbrush and pointed to where I should paint. Together, we “painted” the metal bars. We were princesses, painting... Read more →

A Careful Watch

Holly King Mom and Dad loved getting to know our friends, and in the case of my sisters and me, they especially liked getting to know the boys we were spending time with. Oftentimes, my dad would offer summer jobs to our friends. My dad... Read more →

Living or Dead Love?

Nathalie Bowman Think about the last time you were out and about in a public place, perhaps at the grocery store, park, mall, library, church, museum….. Did you notice any mothers and their children? What were these families doing? What were the interactions like between... Read more →


Maddi Gillel In her story, “The Invisible Woman”, Nicole Johnson likens the mother’s role to that of the builders of the great cathedrals. She reminds us that those builders made great sacrifices to build a cathedral ‘they would never see finished.’ Though their individual efforts... Read more →

What are You Worth?

Rebecca Mallory I don’t understand art. I mean real art. I can look at the Mona Lisa or a Rembrandt and think it is beautiful and interesting, but I marvel that a piece could cost millions of dollars.  I realize it’s my own ignorance, and... Read more →

Fathers are Necessary and Honorable

Diane Robertson Fatherhood is noble. Despite the fact that popular movies tend to make fathers out to be stupid or incapable, mothers, children, and society need fathers. Mothers need fathers present. When I had my first baby it did not take me long to realize... Read more →

Making the Most of Mistakes

Nathalie Bowman Yesterday morning, as we were getting ready for church, my three-year-old daughter climbed up onto the counter in the bathroom where I was putting on my lipstick. In her sweet little voice, she told me her lips were dry, and before I knew... Read more →

A Meal that Mattered

Jenica Ostler My mother worked hard to be an attentive and thoughtful woman. While I lived in her home I watched her make decisions time and time again based on what she had observed would make others happy. Many of these decisions were made in... Read more →

Poll: What Is Morally Acceptable?

For the past 12 years Gallup has been conducting a poll on moral acceptability in America. Gallup published the 2014 results on May 30th. This year’s findings are a disturbing indication of the break down in the general morality of the American public. Contraceptives are... Read more →

School’s Out For Summer!

Rebecca Mallory Do you think Alice Cooper was forewarning us about Common Core with that annoying song, incessantly repeated every May by school kids across the fruited plain? I wonder how our parents would have reacted when they yelled at us to, “Turn that horrid... Read more →

Not about Adult Needs – It’s about Children!

Caitlin Woolbert & Alera Saul The legalization of same sex marriages has become one of the most polarizing political debates in American history, perhaps more so even then that of abortion rights. No one thinks women’s reproductive rights are unimportant regardless of the side you’re... Read more →

“SOAP” and other Four-Letter Words”

Rebecca Mallory What’s the big deal with using four-letter words, swearing, etc? And who the heck (is that bad??) gets to decide what swearing is anyway? At age 7, I remember doing dishes with my older sister, Jean, who coaxed me into yelling “fanny!” at the top of my... Read more →

Happy Mother’s Day: Enjoy some great videos!

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A Waste of Talent

Maryn Holladay My husband subscribes to Bloomberg Businessweek.  This magazine and I have a good thing going on.  Like weekly clockwork: the magazine arrives, I thumb through, I focus on a fascinating article or two (or six), and a few minutes (or… longer) later, I... Read more →

Why Capitalism is Crucial to your Child’s Future

Rebecca Mallory No doubt you’ve heard the recent debates over capitalism. It is the American way and has been since its inception. Recently, however, many speak of capitalism in disparaging terms; that it is somehow unfair, that it promotes greed and robs the very worker... Read more →

Babies Don’t Keep

Liz Mackay   It was a typical Monday morning with children to awaken and help prepare for the day, lunches to pack, laundry to oversee, vacuuming to start. As I moved forward to accomplish these needed tasks, my two youngest children kept coming up and petitioning... Read more →

Make Your Child Addiction Resistant

Ann Bailey There is a surprising way to strengthen your child’s resistance to addiction – take consistent family vacations.  They don’t have to be elaborate and expensive vacations either.  But the vacations do need to be yearly and they need to put your family together... Read more →

Parenting: A Couple Effort

Diane Robertson As a stay at home mom of 9 children, I get many people asking me the question, “How do you do it?” My answer is simple. I do not do it alone. I am a stay at home mom of many children only... Read more →

Marriage: A Reflection After Fifteen Years

Elise Ellsworth Next week my husband and I will celebrate fifteen years of marriage together.  Our marriage has weathered the births of seven children, four college degrees, eleven moves (four of them cross-country), job losses, being hit by a tornado, too many emergency room trips... Read more →

When Children No Longer Matter

Diane Robertson How would a community respond if their school district or school allowed adults to come into the school and walk around naked? What if there was a naked day at the school where adults were allowed to come and parade nude around the... Read more →

Myth Buster: Men earn more than women for the same job

“Women make only 77% of what men earn for equal work.” The percentage in statements like this changes from year to year, but the misperception doesn’t.  People deeply vested in feminism still try to convince the population that women are suffering from workplace discrimination. Perhaps... Read more →

Don’t get mad. Get the camera!

Young children are naturally curious as they grow and learn to explore the world around them. Their investigative minds may see the wonder of flour being spilled onto the kitchen floor for finger drawings or discover in Mom’s makeup bag a new set of art... Read more →

CSW and Sexual Rights

Diane Robertson The Commission on the Status of Women (CWS) is a functional commission of the United Nations Economic and Social Council (ECOSOC). Each year delegates from 45 countries meet at the U.N. headquarters in NY to formulate concrete policies on women worldwide. Volunteers from... Read more →

Through being loved I learned to love

At age eight, Amelia Belchior woke up in her home in Marromeu, Mozambique to learn that her mother had passed away—a short 15 months after losing her father. She and her two-year-old brother were left without parental love and guidance. In the orphanage system, they... Read more →

Hollywood’s best isn’t good enough

Kristi Kane Do you ever look forward to the weekend because you know an outstanding movie is coming out? I haven’t felt that way in a very long time. The 86th Academy Awards which took place on the first Sunday of this month, left me... Read more →

The War We Must Win

Rachel Allison Four sons, one son-in-law, and five grandsons are reason enough to be concerned about the plague of pornography that is so available on our computers, “smart” phones, tablets, and every other devise that can access the internet. Because of the availability, addictions can... Read more →

Discovering self-worth in a visual-centered world

In a media age that bombards youth with images of what they should look like and gives false importance to outer beauty, it can be challenging to instill in young minds a true sense of inner strength and beauty. How can fathers and mothers compete... Read more →

My Latest Shower Debate

-Holly Gardner The internet and I have a love/hate thing going on.  It got me through junior high, high school, college, job hunting, Sunday lesson planning, worry-wart mothering, hobbies, genealogy, my Pinterest phase… I mean, I am an internet fan!  Good, wonderful, informative, uplifting, uniting,... Read more →

Welcome to Child Protective “Of Our Own Jobs” Services

     Rebecca Mallory      “Hello. I’m from the government. I’m here to help.”  Is anyone as fed up with government trying to “help” as I am? Last week’s blog post recounted the horrific story of Justina Pelletier who has been cruelly taken from her parents by... Read more →

Land of the 47th Most Free and Home of the Weak?

Rebecca Mallory Did that headline sink in? Yup. It was announced this week that America now has the 47th most free press in the world. What about the First Amendment to the constitution declaring Freedom of Speech and of a Free press?  It’s being completely... Read more →

Sy Mao’s Advice for Growing Rice (and Children)

Rice is the most important crop in the world.  These tips will help you raise your rice properly. Growing rice is challenging but not impossible.  It takes patience, care, and a tremendous amount of work. Even though rice adapts to many environments, it needs plenty... Read more →

Something good happens to a baby’s brain when

Marlene Hinton Something very good happens to a baby’s brain when parents are close, attentive, communicative, and nurturing with their children—an effect that continues on through life. During the critical, earliest stages of a child’s life, they learn to trust, respond to and return love,... Read more →

Stable Marriages Make Stable Children

Diane Robertson This happens to be National Marriage Week. February 7th to 14th each year has become a “collaborative campaign to strengthen individual marriages, reduce the divorce rate, and build a stronger marriage culture, which in turn helps curtail poverty and benefits children.” While many... Read more →

Deliberate Patience Overcoming Looming Fears

Marlene Hinton Against doctors’ suggestions that Ilene would require institutionalized medical attention, a mother’s earnest patience and love keep the family together. Ilene’s daily ways invite her family to learn compassion and to delight in her life regardless of the challenges. She was six years... Read more →

There is a Time and a Season…

Rachel Allison In wars past, I visualize men and more recently women in battle armor, fighting to defend our country and the freedoms of those they love and hold dear.   There are many different kinds of battles and many different kinds of wars; all of... Read more →

Eating an Elephant

 Rebecca Mallory We moved this past week. From a house we had lived in for over 15 years. It had a ton of storage, which probably sounds great to most of you. But guess what you do with a lot of storage? You store.  It... Read more →

Growing through Misunderstandings

Sarah Alldredge Our little family had quite the experience last night while gathered around the dinner table. My husband and I were in the throes of a marital spat, and our daughter’s expression of frustration with us created the perfect segue from dinnertime to a... Read more →

The “Silent Majority” Speaks Up

Editor’s note:  A huge rally in support of traditional marriage was held on Tuesday, January 28.  United Families Utah representatives, along with five interns, participated.  We wanted to share some of their experiences and insights – including their reaction when protestors from the gay lobby... Read more →

Sex Indoctrination and Loss of Childhood Innocence

Rachel Allison If there is anyone living on this planet that isn’t aware of the chaos, confusion and even madness that is encroaching nearer and nearer to our homes and families, I would love to know where they are living and how they are keeping... Read more →

Seeing the World with New Eyes

Laura Lofgreen describes how motherhood has brought her new perspectives on life and helped her to see more clearly the love of her own mother. We hope you find her words helpful as we have, and please feel free to pass them along to others... Read more →

Choosing Children

Elise Ellsworth In the last number of years a good amount of material has been published about the rewards of parenting.  Are parents truly happier?  Is parenting worth it?  Many of these articles highlight the downsides of being a parent.  Dirty diapers.  Crying babies.  Bulging... Read more →

Child Exploitation and Abuse in My Neighborhood?

Today’s news reported a shocking story of a three-year-old toddler being coerced into using terrible language and making obscene gestures simply for the entertainment of the adults in the room. A video of the incident was the punch that forced viewers to acknowledge that such child abuse could and would actually take place. I recognize that this is an isolated case. I hope it’s an isolated case. Nevertheless, I can’t get the little boy’s image out of my mind, and I wonder if someone will step in to undo the wrong inflicted on one so young and innocent of fault. It’s a tragedy when any person preys on children to abuse verbally, physically, sexually or emotionally. It speaks amorally of any society where child abuse and exploitation is significantly widespread. When there aren’t enough Child Protective Service caseworkers to protect the children who are being neglected or injured by parents or caregivers, I would consider the abuse to be at uncontrollable levels. Even more alarming…what does it say about a society where men and women, specifically placed in positions of power and influence, exploit the most vulnerable.? And what does it say about a society who is so distracted by whatever the distraction, that they aren’t aware of the exploitation? With Kevin Jennings in control of our children/grandchildren’s education do you think our full attention should be centered on what is being promoted in our schools? Knowing full well Mr. Jennings’ history as a member of NAMBLA, (NAMBLA stands for North American Man Boy Love Association) President Obama appointed him to be the “Safe School Czar.” One of NAMBLA’s well-documented goals is to repeal the age of sexual consent laws because they believe sex between men and boys is beneficial. Do we think he may have an agenda? And with his position as our country’s “safe school czar” (the title is laughable,) do you think the agenda is moving forward? What Jennings is doing NOW in Washington DC: • "Safe Schools" czar Kevin Jennings to get $410 million in Obama's 2011 federal budget. To push homosexual and transgender programs in America's schools! • Kevin Jennings helps introduce bill in Congress to require normalization of homosexuality, transgenderism, cross-dressing, etc., in America's public schools! HB 2510: Every parent's worst nightmare coming true. Does such an agenda seem incredulous? Ask the parents in a public school in Montana who were alarmed to discover that homosexuality was actually being introduced to their first grade children. This homosexual curriculum then “progresses” through each grade level with fifth graders being taught the detailed descriptions of explicit sexual positions, anal and oral sex and explanations of benefits of swallowing certain bodily fluids. Does this strike horror to your heart? What do we do? What should you do? Get involved! Shaking our heads in disbelief will accomplish nothing. Shaking our fists in anger will accomplish little. Educate yourselves. Do your homework. Be aware of what is being taught in your children’s/grandchildren’s classroom. Be aware of what programs are being presented to your Jr. Sr. High students after school. And when you are informed, inform your friends and neighbors and hope that they will be just as concerned as you are. We need a ground swell to stop this exploitation. As long as Kevin Jennings holds the position that he does, and as long as we have a president who endorses Mr. Jennings agenda, we don’t have the luxury to be distracted. The most vulnerable are being targeted. This “free-thinking,” “all-inclusive,” “tolerant” society we live in is going to irreparably destroy our children. Get involved to stop the madness taking place in schools near you. IT IS SO PLAINLY EVIDENT THAT BOTH THE GREAT GOOD AND THE TERRIBLE EVIL FOUND IN THE WORLD TODAY ARE THE SWEET AND THE BITTER FRUITS OF THE REARING OF YESTERDAY’S CHILDREN. AS WE TRAIN A NEW GENERATION, SO WILL THE WORLD BE IN A FEW YEARS. IF WE ARE WORRIED ABOUT THE FUTURE THEN WE MUST LOOK TODAY AT THE UPBRINGING OF CHILDREN…THE FAMILY DESERVES— NO, IT DEMANDS—OUR FOCUS AND ATTENTION…”Gordan B. Hinckley Read more →

Character Taking Shape Around a Kitchen Table

Tiffany Dowell In our fast-paced, ambitious world, many of us are working hard, striving to become better people and to give life to our worthy goals and aspirations.  The simplest things can shape us into what we will become and cultivate the kind of heart... Read more →

Finding Perspective in Hurtful Situations

How many of us can recall a time when our naive childhood or adolescent behavior caused a hurtful situation for our parents? Since human errors are part of childhood, all of us have the opportunity, at one point or another, to choose to embrace the... Read more →

May I Teach My Children to Be Wise

Tara Holladay It was just another day.  My daughter was at preschool, my mother was watching my toddler son, and I was sitting in a clean, generic waiting room, hoping that when it was my turn in the dentist chair I wouldn’t be hearing any... Read more →

Selfless Giving

Casey Reeve shares how his father helped to instill in him the true meaning of Christmas. Every Christmas Eve, we would lie under the Christmas tree, listening intently to my father. He would get down next to us and gaze up at the lights on... Read more →

Remembering Anna

Rachel Allison I don’t know if UFI readers remember my writing about a group of women who, experiencing the heartache caused by their own abortions, have dedicated themselves to educating, influencing and hopefully inspiring others to choose life.  One of these good women shared this story... Read more →

The Cultural War: Alive and Strong

Diane Robertson Around the holidays I usually don’t want to think about politics, laws, or policies. But lawsuits, bad laws, and general bad ideas meant to damage the family, do not take a Christmas vacation. This Christmas the family is being attacked on many fronts.... Read more →

Christmas Gifts that Brought us Together

Janalee Marriott shares how her parents encouraged a spirit of giving and intentionally thinking of others. Their family tradition gave each family member an opportunity to secretly focus on someone else for the month of December—to gain a greater sense of selflessness and love. The... Read more →

Don’t Turn Your Child’s Sex Education Over to the School

Christina Toliver and Emily Dewitt The rise in sexually transmitted diseases should make us question what is being taught today about sex.  It is very unfortunate that in this 21st century, where there is vast medical knowledge and new technology literally at our fingertips, there... Read more →

Navy Seals and Moms

Maddi Gillel The Navy Seals are one of my favorite subjects to read about, hear about and talk about.  I admire this group of men more than words can express.  I’m reading a book now by Marcus Lutrell – “LONE SURVIVOR-THE EYEWITNESS ACCOUNT OF OPERATION... Read more →

Putin Promulgating Procreation

Rachel Allison What do I have in common with Vladimir Putin?  Apparently more than I formerly realized. In September, 2014 the World Congress of Families Conference is being held in Moscow, Russia. The Conference focus:  “Every Child a Gift:  Large Families—The Future of Humanity.”  Take... Read more →

Kindness: Never let it die.

Kristi Kane One of my favorite poems is this: I have wept in the night for the shortness of sight that to somebody’s need I was blind. But I never have yet felt a twinge of regret for being a little too kind. ~anon. There... Read more →

Christmas Memories, a Mother’s Love

Carol Soelberg Flannel had become a popular new trend in the late 80’s and early 90’s.  My mother had spent hours and hours making all of us children matching pajamas to open on Christmas Eve out of this trendy plaid, flannel material.  As I look... Read more →

UN Treaty Hurts Families

Those who favor turning our sovereignty over to the United Nations system are at it again!  By Ann Bailey There is once again a strong push to move the U.N. Convention on the Rights of Persons with Disabilities  to the U.S. senate floor for a... Read more →

Just Any Four Hands will Not Do

David Jenks Same gender parenting is a controversial subject. Many people believe that a same gender couple could raise a child just as well as a heterosexual couple. This is an attack on the structure of the family and could have detrimental effects in the... Read more →

Survival in a World of “Kamikazes”

  Rachel Allison The Thanksgiving Holiday offers us a specific season each year to reflect on our blessings. These past few days my thoughts have focused on my childhood and the impact my parents made on me during my formative years.  Their words, their priorities,... Read more →

Date Rape and Sexual Assault

by Kristi Kane During my last year of college, a young man in one of my creative writing classes wrote a story about a young woman who had been raped. I still remember the opening line of his story written in first person, in which... Read more →

Parenting: The Effect on Society

Alexandria Christensen and Kendra Mayo Parenting is an important part of how society functions. Parents rear the rising generation that will become the political leaders, the work force, and the consumers of tomorrow. Parents raise children to become successful adults. Laurence Steinberg (2005) states, “Good... Read more →

The Night My Husband and I Went to a Strip Club

Alexxus Kochel                                                      After a long week, I was very excited for a date night with my husband. Something about a stress free Friday night to unwind is soothing to me. My husband picked me up from work, and we headed to a movie. We had... Read more →

The REAL Difference Between Praise and Encouragement

Bethany Larson & Jenny Cooper Do you want your child to be honest, genuine and to form meaningful relationships with others?  Of course you do!  As parents we want our children to be the best they can be and to become successful in their lives. ... Read more →

More than Two Parents Equals a Mess

Diane Robertson Leave it to California to take one crazy law and turn it into an even crazier law. Children in California can now have three or more legal parents. Some may find it helpful for sharing parental responsibilities with things like doctor appointments and... Read more →

Forcing People to Subsidize Fiction

Ann Bailey Two women can now “have a baby together.”  Yup, it’s a brave new world.   And guess what, if you live in California, lesbian couples now will get financial assistance to acquire that baby and it will be underwritten by you.  I’m still not... Read more →

Lose the Mullet; Get Married!

Ann Bailey Blair McMillan of Guelph, Canada, has grown a mullet in a bid to return to the year 1986 – the year he was born.  He and his girlfriend, Morgan, have also put away their tablets, smart phones,  computers, DVD players, X-box, coffee machine... Read more →

New Study: A Married Mother and Father Does Matter

Diane Robertson A study published last week in the journal Review of the Economics of the Household analyzes data taken from the 2011 Canadian Census in which young adults are asked the question: “Are you the child of a male or female same-sex married or... Read more →

Are you really an adult?

Kristi Kane The word adult is a funny one to me only because in today’s society it seems to have such a wide variety of definitions, most of which contradict each other.  To me an adult is supposed to be someone who is mature and... Read more →

Parents: Get it together!

Kristi Kane Last week, one of my daughters told me for the tenth (it could be more), time that she never plans on getting married. When I ask her why, she tells me that her generation does not understand how to love or trust or... Read more →

Abortion and Cohabitation: A Shift in Our Focus

Commitment, loyalty, responsibility. These are all things that we want in ourselves and in those around us. Social scientists have long discussed how we live in a social world.  We are not born into a social vacuum; rather our lives influence others, just as their... Read more →

Of Grasshoppers and Children

Maddie Gillel There’s a great story in children’s literature about a grasshopper who loves to play his fiddle and dance the whole summer away while watching the busy little ants harvesting everything in sight so that they will have the necessities throughout the coming winter. ... Read more →

Essential Parenting Lesson: Let children suffer consequences

Kristi Kane It’s hard to watch our children suffer consequences for their poor choices or foolish actions. The older they are, the more challenging the consequences. When my children were little, of course there were times when they were disobedient. I would ask them if... Read more →

Do you know what your children are watching?

Lorna Bryce and Hanah Parker Children spend more time watching television than in any other activity except sleep.  Fifty-four percent of children have a TV in their bedroom and 44 percent of these children say they watch something different when they’re alone than with their... Read more →

Uncontrolled Anger: A Path to Destruction

Kristi Kane Nearly 40 years ago, my Dad (now a retired physician), was called by the attending physician in the city’s local emergency room to help with a patient. A woman in her mid-late 40’s had been struck in the back of her head by... Read more →

Pornography Negatively Impacts All Ages

By Natasha Rasaka Growing Up Babies grow up becoming terrible at two, leave for the very first day of school at five, and can read a book by age seven. Around 12 years of age the baby you used to have is really a young... Read more →

Save: That rainy day will surely come

Kristi Kane When my husband and I had our first child, he was at the very beginning of graduate school. I had worked up to my daughter’s birth, and then chose to stay home with her full-time. Needless to say, there was not a lot... Read more →

Why 30 is NOT the new 20

Are you in your 20s?  Know someone who is?  This TED talk by psychologist Meg Jay is one that you want to take a few minutes to watch. [youtube=] Read more →

Emotional and Verbal Abuse and Families

Kali Davis Children can be very resilient, bouncing back from a number of things such as physical trauma, poverty, or chronic illness. Children are able to do this due to their young age and also because they are encouraged, loved and supported through such difficult... Read more →

Marriage and Family Counseling: A GREAT Idea!

Kristi Kane Several months ago, one of the researcher’s at my husband’s company dumped at least a dozen expired chemicals down the drain and left for the day.  A couple of hours later, as other employees left, they heard the fire alarm but just thought... Read more →

The Silent Killer

Emily Barney and Micah Brock Imagine that your child is severely ill, and you have no idea what her diagnosis is. Consider the anxiety, frustration, and helplessness that you would feel day after day trying to figure out what is the matter. What might it... Read more →

Invest in Your Children, Not Your Career

Ann Bailey “[P]arents should view the costs of child care as an investment in their career,” stated an article on Time-Management Strategies for Working Parents.  This was the final sentence in an article from a major media source that offered “advice for fostering a healthy... Read more →

“Parents, You Cannot Afford to be Tired”

Kristi Kane Several years ago, I heard a wise man proclaim to an audience of parents, “Parents, you cannot afford to be tired.” His statement surprised me. I asked myself, “What’s he talking about!?  As a parent, I am almost always tired.”   His statement is... Read more →

The TV Trap

Nicole Huckbody & Whitney Trudo Statistics show that 99 percent of American households have at least one television set in their home, and 66 percent of those homes have three or more television sets.  Statistics go on to show that when four to six year-old... Read more →

Not Just Information

Diane Robertson Just in case the 40% abortion rate in NYC is not high enough for the money-driven abortion industry and Planned Parenthood, New York City Department of Health and Hygiene is promoting a new app on their NYC teen website. The app, available in... Read more →

Should I Stay or Should I go…

Kristi Kane During one of the terms of President William Jefferson Clinton, “Character Counts” was the motto of a Boy Scouts of America National Jamboree. President Clinton attended the jamboree, and several of the scouts were seen nudging each other in the ribs and pointing... Read more →

Is there Entropy in Your Life?

Maggie Gillel Entropy : a measure of the unavailable energy in a closed thermodynamic system that is also usually considered to be a measure of the system’s disorder;  a process of degradation or running down or a trend to disorder;  chaos, disorganization, randomness.  When I... Read more →

The Way We Speak to Our Children…

Aubrey Wood & Kirstie Steel Many of us would be appalled if we were in a grocery store and watched as a parent smacked the back of their child’s head for the offense of reaching for a box of cookies the parent had just denied. ... Read more →

The Dropout epidemic

Kristi Kane My daughter who is graduating from high school this month announced to me that many of her friends are not. Tonight my husband and I took our boys and their friends to a movie and saw one of our girls’ friends. She works... Read more →

Guys having Sex: So What?

Rebecca Mallory Many girls ask the question, “What are the legal downsides to a guy having sex before marriage?” While legality is certainly a concern, the emotional, physical, and financial aspects of premarital sex are as serious and can be even more damaging.  Girls definitely... Read more →

“An Orderly Way of Life”

Maddie Gillel  “Teach your child an orderly way of life; it will be to his great advantage.  It’s not too early to start when your baby is born”, counseled a wise, experienced registered nurse as she spoke to a group of women, including me, attending... Read more →

Mothers: Influencers Extraordinaire

Rachel Allison I recently read the following: I am totally convinced that once a woman has borne a child, she owes that child herself more than anything else in the first five years of his life… I fear that raising emotion-starved and love-starved children can... Read more →

Good Parenting and Sportsmanship go Together

Kristi Kane A local news channel recently announced that a 17-year-old boy who was playing soccer, was given a yellow card during his game by the ref, and in retaliation, punched the ref in the face. The ref was hospitalized. I was shocked by the... Read more →

The Boy Scouts of America: A New Member of NAMBLA?

Kristi Kane The Boy Scouts of America is a wonderful organization that teaches boys the importance of goal-setting, community service, teamwork and leadership. What a marvelous and superior alternative to pornography and countless hours of video gaming that seem to plague boys these days. So,... Read more →

An Untold Tale of Resilience

Kristi Kane We are regularly reminded of the bad and the ugly that goes on in our world by just watching the news or surfing the internet. With the attack in Boston a few weeks old, there have been stories of those who did great... Read more →

Lessons for Life

Maddi Gillel When I was growing up, I had the advantage of my mother, two grandmas, and a great grandmother living with and close to me.  Such wisdom they all had about life!  They could cook, sew, quilt, raise children, farm, do handwork, serve others,... Read more →

Today’s Peace Signs

Rebecca Mallory National headlines from the past news week have undoubtedly set most Americans on edge. Shocking scenes of the tragedy at the Boston marathon finish line and the fiery images after the explosion of a fertilizer plant in Waco, Texas leave us all bewildered... Read more →

Some Parents Need Your Help!

Diane Robertson Four years ago Swedish socials service officials took, seven-year-old, Dominic Johansson from his parents as the family boarded an international flight. Armed police seized the boy without arrest warrants.  Swedish officials placed him in a foster home. The boy has still not been... Read more →

Suicide and Sorrow

Kristi Kane On Saturday I got to watch as my girls prepared for their school’s Prom. It was an exciting day. They helped each other with their hair and makeup, talked with their friends about how much fun they were going to have that evening,... Read more →

A Crisis in our Culture

Maddie Gillel During my shift in the Emergency Room last night, I had the pleasure of evaluating a patient whose smile revealed an expensive shiny gold tooth, whose body was adorned with a wide assortment of elaborate and costly tattoos, who wore a very expensive brand... Read more →

Critical Question

Marlene Hinton Shortly after I wrote a response (here) to Dr. Harris-Perry’s comments that children should belong to the collective community rather than their parents, I received a phone call asking if I seriously took Harris-Perry’s comments literally.  Does she really advocate removing children from... Read more →

What all Girls Should Know before Having Sex

Rachel Allison Dr. Miriam Grossman, M.D. worked at a campus counseling center for more than 10 years.  The young women who came to her were in crisis. They were “working hard to fulfill their dreams:  a college education, maybe grad school, a great career, and—at... Read more →

Do Your Children Belong to the Community?

Diane Robertson Babies are born needing to belong. Children born to a mother or father who do not want them, neglect them, abuse them, or do not attach to them, often suffer from attachment disorder causing problems throughout their lives. Given this fact, it shouldn’t... Read more →

The advantages of drugs and alcohol…there aren’t any

Kristi Kane To my knowledge, there has never been an article written about the advantages of taking drugs, alcohol or cigarettes into your system. Not a convincing one anyway. And even though 14 states have legalized the “medicinal” use of marijuana, I remain unconvinced of... Read more →

“Lioness at the Gate”

Rachel Allison As major conferences are held at the United Nations, men and women from all over the world come to New York City to support a particular cause or share their grievances with those who will listen.  Many plan what are called “side events”... Read more →

Kindness: A Dying Virtue?

Kristi Kane “I have wept in the night for the shortness of sight that to somebody’s need I was blind. But I never have yet felt a twinge of regret for being a little too kind.” —anon. There are so many issues in today’s society... Read more →

Shallow or Deep?

Maddie Gillel There is a fairly prominent figure in our media today whom I am finding more and more interesting – and in a negative way.  He’s in his late 60’s or early 70’s, in a high profile leadership position, is obviously comfortable financially, and... Read more →

Five Reasons to be a Single Parent? Give me a Break!

Rachel Allison My children are pretty savvy…at least their mother thinks so.  However, periodically one or another will surprise me with a statement that proves that he’s not as “in the know” as he should be.  By sighting a few statistics or studies, my child... Read more →

Stay On Target

Kristi Kane One of my favorite movie trilogies growing up was “Star Wars.” First of all it was just a great story. Secondly, I loved to wear my hair in Princess Leia buns going to school, and third, what girl didn’t have a crush on... Read more →

Remembering CSW

Rachel Allison This week is the final week of the “Commission on the Status of Women,” a conference being held at the United Nations in New York City.  United Families International has several volunteers at the UN working to influence pro-life and pro-family language into... Read more →

“I had a mother that read to me…”

Kristi Kane In the day of the dinosaurs, before cable TV, DVD, VHS, laptop computers, or cell phones, there were once books! Of course I am being facetious, but my children often wonder what I did in my early childhood without videos or cable television.... Read more →

Moorings, Direction, and Peace

Maddi Gillel Mooring – 1- an act of making fast a boat or aircraft with lines or anchors 2- a place where or an object to which a craft can be made fast; a chain, line, or other device by which an object is secured... Read more →

Children must be Taught…and Taught…and Taught…

Rachel Allison How many times did I teach my children the same principle? And how many times did I remind them of what was required, and what was expected?  Probably just as often as I was reminded when I was a child and adolescent. Teaching... Read more →

“Second Hand Lions” and The Law of the Harvest

Maddi Gillel There are 2 parts of the movie “Second Hand Lions” that I want to use as an illustration for this topic.  First, the 3 main characters in the movie have purchased some vegetable seeds from a travelling salesman and have planted them. You... Read more →

Need a Cause? Protect the Family

Rachel Allison I’m going to admit to something that very few people know.  During those crazy busy years when my children were at home, I never read the newspaper.  I just didn’t have time. Every waking minute I was occupied with feeding, clothing, cleaning, teaching,... Read more →

The Entitled Generation

Rachel Allison I’m visiting my daughter and son-in-law this week in Wisconsin.  During the course of our telephone conversation weeks ago, I asked my daughter what her children needed…new nightgowns or skirts?  They love Nana’s home-sewn flannel nightgowns and “twirly” skirts. I was surprised when... Read more →

Parental Rights: Who Cares the Most?

  Fedeline Morrow and Olivia Burton In communist Russia the average parent was not respected or considered important.  Rather, children were considered “property of the state” since children were the state’s future.  In the system of government in Russia, parents were considered the genetic source... Read more →

Marriage and Those Unavoidable Up-Hill Battles

Rachel Allison It’s Valentine’s Week….the week for love and romance. For those of us who are married, it’s also a time that gives special occasion to reflect on the love, appreciation and commitment to our spouse and companion. This week I am especially grateful that... Read more →

Still Courting After All These Years…

Kristi Kane Courting.   It’s an old word, one my Dad used to use. But its definition is one we romantics all love: special or devoted attention in order to win favor, affection, etc. Who doesn’t want to be courted? When my husband and I began... Read more →

The Demise of Guys? Over My Dead Body

Gregg Murset I recently read the book entitled, “The Demise of Guys” and was totally shocked at the statistics reinforcing what I instinctively already knew in my head. As the author put it, “guys are flaming out”. Crashing and burning. Biting the dust. Well, I... Read more →

Who’s Raising Our Children?

Becca Carl & Caitlyn Green From the time I was six, both of my parents worked outside the home. The day care I attended took me to school and picked me up every day. When I was there, we played many games and went outside... Read more →

Sunburns, Head Trauma, and the Social Media

Rachel Allison Moms and Dads, do your homework where your children are concerned…I wish I had. My young children spent their summers in southern Colorado surrounded by beautiful ten-thousand foot mountains, and near several streams where they fished for hours most every day.  If they... Read more →

Education: Third Cycle, Is there Hope?

Maddi Gillel Editor’s note:  This is the third in a series on education.  To see “The High Water Mark,” go here, the second article, “The Nose Dive,” is here. The value of the second cycle is that many have learned the hard way what works... Read more →

New Meaning for “Morally Straight”

Carol Soelberg The Boy Scouts of America (BSA) will announce next week whether they will retain a long-standing policy of not allowing homosexuals to serve as volunteer leaders or whether they will now allow individuals who are openly homosexual to participate in the scouting program.... Read more →

Some “What Ifs” of Gay Marriage

Rachel Allison All four of my sons are Eagle Scouts.  I helped all four of them prepare for any situation as they packed for those monthly campouts and annual scout camps.  I watched them think through the “what ifs” of all the situations for which... Read more →

It’s All About Me

Mari Anderson & Marcy Cooper “I found out I was pregnant on my 21st birthday. It was not planned and, in fact, I never really planned on having children in the future. I am now eight weeks pregnant and so confused. I am very pro-life;... Read more →

Precious Memories Lost or Created…Parents Choose Wisely

Rachel Allison Reading Ann Bailey’s article about the studies that have come out against the Federal Government’s Head Start preschool program must be discouraging to those whose intentions may have been positive and even altruistic.  But the years of time and effort and billions of... Read more →

For Better or for Worse, be Committed to your Marriage

Kristi Kane Growing up, my parents gave me good advice. I didn’t realize how good until I got married. From my Dad, I learned the importance of making wise financial decisions like “putting money aside for a rainy day,” (or saving), and “living within your... Read more →


Maddi Gillel “The strict discipline in educational preparation for professional life is described by John Adams.  By the time his son, John Quincy Adams was 18, the youth had become fairly proficient in Latin, French, and Greek.  He had also studied English and French literature,... Read more →

Video Gaming: Be Very Careful

Rachel Allison This post may offend some of our readers.  If I say something that hits too close to home, just honestly evaluate your child’s involvement and if necessary ignore my observations. My children grew up during the skate-board craze in our neighborhood.  All of... Read more →

Holy Cow

Diane Robertson Last week in Boulder, Colorado a police officer shot a bull elk. The police officers involved in the shooting of the elk have been put on administrative leave and are under criminal investigation. On Sunday, hundreds of citizens in Boulder, Colorado held a... Read more →

Modern-day Russian Roulette

Rachel Allison At birth, Hydeia Broadbent was abandoned at the University Medical Center of Southern Nevada in Las Vegas where Patricia and Loren Broadbent adopted her as an infant. Although her HIV condition was congenital, she was not diagnosed as HIV-positive with advancement to AIDS... Read more →


Maddi Gillel An 80 year old woman was asked to speak to a group of women about marriage.  She had been married to one man all of her married life, and they had raised a large family.  At the end, she opened up a question... Read more →

The Cost of Taking Religion Out of Law

Diane Robertson Over the past 50 years, we have witnessed the loss of religion and religious values in the public square, in the laws, and in public schools.  These legal changes are most obvious in sex education laws, marriage and divorce laws, and abortion. Yet,... Read more →


Maddi Gillel A religious leader once stated that he feared that by ignoring traditional values in modern life, we are slipping back into the jungle. That statement has stayed in my mind for years.  I try to visualize what we know about jungle life to... Read more →

Take Back our Homes and Families

Bobbie Jager I am a mother of 13 children, and like you my heart is heavy from the shooting in Sandy Connecticut.  Our world is in a critical condition.  There are mothers and fathers tonight who have empty arms and our nation has been once... Read more →

Please Pray

Diane Robertson Today in Connecticut, 20 young children and 6 adults died when a gun man opened fire in their school. Tonight, 40 parents will not be tucking their babies into bed. Tonight, 40 parents are not going to hear little voices saying “I love... Read more →

Dare to Discipline

Rachel Allison As I was working with a group of eight to eleven-year-old children in my church this past weekend, I was disheartened at how undisciplined and disrespectful they were.  After a lot of “shushing” which brought no results whatever, I sternly reminded the children... Read more →

The Facts about Your Child’s School and Christmas

Ann Bailey You can’t sing Christmas Carols or say Merry Christmas.  You can’t put up a nativity scene or read the Christmas story from the Bible.  You can’t do any of this at your child’s school? That’s what groups like the Freedom from Religion want... Read more →

Reader Poll: “Have you considered home schooling?”

Here’s the question we asked UFI readers: “In an effort to thwart the negative educational & cultural influences assaulting your children, how seriously have you considered homeschooling?” Here’s how our readers responded: 17 percent       Won’t be considering it 33 percent       Starting to contemplating it... Read more →

Video Games for Christmas Gifts?

“Congratulations, level 1 is complete! You’ve received 100,000 points, plus a bonus of 10,000 points for your record time! Your new mission is to protect your village. Good luck.” This statement and ones like it are being heard by children and teenagers all over the... Read more →


Maddi Gillel “Self-government involves self-control, self-discipline, an acceptance of and the most unremitting obedience to correct principles.   Its demands are commensurate with its high privileges.  Duties are the inseparable companions of rights.  No other form of government requires so high a degree of individual morality... Read more →

Christmas…Let’s Keep it Simple

Rachel Allison Last year’s Christmas season was unusually chaotic around our house.  Because of an educational opportunity, our son, his wife and his family with three small children were living with us.  Two of these children were two-month old twins.  My sweet daughter-in-law was a... Read more →

A Little “Stigmatization” Goes A Long Way…

Mary Jane Fritzen Recently PBS Newshour included a sad segment about the increasing numbers of young Americans with HIV. “Teens and young adults now account for more than a quarter of the new cases of HIV identified in the United States annuals, and a clear... Read more →

Choice, Accountability and Consequence

Rachel Allison Did you know that there is a language where the word CONSEQUENCE or its equivalent is not found?  United Families International learned this unforeseen truth when we introduced STAY ALIVE, an AIDS prevention program, to schoolchildren in Africa.  It is easy for us... Read more →

Indoctrination of Children? Here’s Some Evidence

Diane Robertson In 2011, Daniel Villarrea, a writer for The Queerity, a top online LGBT magazine wrote an article entitled, Can We Please Just Start Admitting That We Do Actually Want To Indoctrinate Kids?. (Just a warning that the language is very lewd and offensive... Read more →

The Wonderful Blessings of Work

Maddi Gillel “Without parents’ humanizing work, children may be quite smart, well-educated, and successful, but so selfish, self-centered, and uncaring as to be essentially uncivilized – not able to live in a spirit of community with others” (On Rekindling a Spirit of ‘Home Training: A... Read more →

Valued Choices

Rachel Allison Today I am thankful for a mother who chose a husband who would love his family and be devoted to his responsibilities to us…a selfless hard-working man who was loyal and faithful to her, his children and his faith in God. I am... Read more →

Things I Want My Sons to Know

Danny Quinney Some people are just jerks:  It has always amazed me how much the opinions of others matter.  Their opinions don’t.  I once heard someone say that “you wouldn’t worry so much about what other people thought of you if you realized how often... Read more →


Maddi Gillel The National Fatherhood Institute (NFI), with the Alabama Family Alliance, offers a number of suggestions for how fathers can improve their skills: 1-    Respect your children’s mother.  If you are married, commit to keeping your marriage strong and vital.  If you are not... Read more →

The Support that Destroys

Rachel Allison Yesterday I attended a wedding of a dear friend’s son. I introduced myself to the young man sitting next to me who happened to be the oldest brother of the bride.  We had several minutes to engage in conversation before the wedding began,... Read more →


by Maddi Gillel My husband and I lived in Africa from 2006-2008.  Within a month of arriving there, the thoughts were coming to me: “how can a continent have so many complex problems?  (aids – 30%, fractured families, rampant diseases, immorality, polygamy, competing tribes, dishonesty,... Read more →

Acceptance of Diversity or All-out Indoctrination?

Rachel Allison Just over eighteen months ago a friend of mine heard about a program being presented at a high school across town.  It was advertised as a  Pinal County LGBTQ Youth Summit.  (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer) Recognizing that such a program could prove... Read more →

The Power of Good Women

by Maddi Gillel I have noticed in the past few years the power women have for good or evil, depending on the choices they, themselves, make.  I can see that women of all ages have an aura around them of good which influences others for... Read more →

Life’s Regrets or Life’s Satisfactions: We Choose

Rachel Allison I recently heard a speaker tell of a nurse of the terminally ill who often asked her patients, “Do you have any regrets?” This nurse’s question has given me pause to reflect, and I’m not even sick.  Her patients’ most frequent responses? 1. ... Read more →

A Father’s Failings–A Father’s Love

Rachel Allison Last night my sister shared this true experience with me as told by Jeffrey Holland, one of the current leaders in the Mormon Faith.  It touched my heart as I thought back on the mistakes I made as a mother. Like Mr. Holland,... Read more →

Can’t use terms “mother” or “father”

Diane Robertson In drafting a law that would legalize gay-marriage in France, French law-makers are taking gender neutrality one step further. They plan to remove the terms, “Mother” and “Father” from all government documents. The law that will be presented to France’s President Francois Hollande’s... Read more →