Myth Buster Monday: Same-sex relationships and marriage are the same as heterosexual marriages and relationships.

Myth Buster Monday: Same-sex relationships and marriage are the same as heterosexual marriages and relationships.

“Homosexual lives and relationships are just the same as heterosexual lives and relationships” is a common declaration of same-sex advocates and the media that supports them.  But is true?   Below are just a few facts; they tell a different story.   We prefer to not overwhelm you with statistics, but if you would like more information on this topic, we direct you here,   Or   here.

Relationship Longevity

If you’re in a male same-sex marriage, it’s 50 percent more likely to end in divorce than a heterosexual marriage. If you’re in a female same-sex marriage, this figure rises to 167 percent.  These statistics come from Norway and Sweden where five out of every 1000 new couples are same-sex. Gunnar Andersson, “Divorce-Risk Patterns in Same-Sex Marriages in Norway and Sweden”2004.

An Amsterdam study found that the average homosexual relationship lasts only 18 months and that “men in homosexual relationships, on average, have eight partners a year outside those relationships.” By comparison, more than two-thirds of heterosexual marriages in America last longer than ten years. Maria Xiridou, et al. “The Contribution of Steady and Casual Partnerships to the Incidence of HIV Infection Among Homosexual Men in Amsterdam,” AIDS 17, 7 (2003): 1029-1038.

Clinicians Mattison and McWhirter studied 156 long-term homosexual relationships, but found that not one couple was able to maintain sexual fidelity for more than five years. Most maintained a monogamous relationship for less than one year. Homosexual theorists respond by redefining promiscuity as normal and healthy for homosexual men. David P. McWhirter and Andrew M. Mattison, The Male Couple: How Relationships Develop, (Englewood Cliffs: Prentice-Hall, 1984).

A. P. Bell and M. S. Weinberg, in their classic study of male and female homosexuality, found that 43 percent of white male homosexuals had sex with five hundred or more partners, with 28 percent having 1,000 or more sex partners. A. P. Bell and M. S. Weinberg, Homosexualities: A Study of Diversity Among Men and Women (New York: Simon and Schuster, 1978), 308-309; See also A. P. Bell, M. S. Weinberg, and S. K. Hammersmith, Sexual Preference (Bloomington: Indiana University Press, 1981).


In their Journal of Sex Research study of the sexual practices of older homosexual men, Paul Van de Ven, et al., found that only 2.7 percent of older homosexuals had only one sexual partner in their lifetime. Paul Van de Ven et al., “A Comparative Demographic and Sexual Profile of Older Homosexually Active Men,” Journal of Sex Research 34 (1997): 354.

Among heterosexual couples, 75 percent of husbands and 90 percent of wives claim never to have had extramarital sex. Robert T. Michael et al., Sex in America: A Definitive Survey (Boston: Little, Brown & Company, 1994)Other studies and surveys confirm the percentage of faithful spouses between 75-81 percent for husbands and 85-88 percent for wives. Michael W. Widerman, “Extramarital Sex: Prevalence and Correlated in a National Survey,” Journal of Sex Research 34 (1997): 2.

Violence in Relationships

In regard to Intimate Partner abuse and violence:  11.4 percent of homosexual females report experiencing violence at the hands of their partner and 15.4 percent of homosexual males report violence, while 0.26 married heterosexual women report violence and 0.05 percent of heterosexual married men. “Extent, Nature, and Consequences of Intimate Partner Violence,” U.S. Department of Justice: Office of Justice Programs: 30; “Intimate Partner Violence,” Bureau of Justice Statistics Special Report:11


The risk of contracting AIDS from a single act of unprotected heterosexual intercourse is 1 in 715,000. The risk of contracting AIDS from a single act of unprotected homosexual intercourse is 1 in 165. Tom W. Smith, “Adult Sexual Behavior and Risk of AIDS,” Family Planning Perspectives 23, 3 (May/June 1991): 104.

Thirty-two percent of homosexual men and women abuse alcohol, as compared with seven percent (10 percent of men and 5 percent of women) in the general population. L. Fifield, J. Latham and C. Phillips, “Alcoholism in the Gay Community:  The Price of Alienation, Isolation, and Oppression,” A Project of the Gay Community Service Center, Los Angeles, CA (1977).

Clinicians estimate an incidence rate of substance abuse among homosexuals to range from 28 to 35 percent; this estimate contrasts with an incidence of 10 to 12 percent in the general population. J. H. Lowinson, et al., Substance Abuse:  A Comprehensive Textbook, 3d ed. (Baltimore, MD:  Williams & Wilkins, 1997).

  • Brett
    Posted at 16:53h, 08 February

    I find it odd that the ad banner at the top would be promoting finding gay relationships considering the topic of the post.

  • United Families International
    Posted at 00:48h, 09 February

    The add is generated by someone other than United Families International. We have no control over the ads that come on your screen. You’re right, though, it is pretty ironic. Sorry.

  • garry
    Posted at 13:17h, 11 February

    This whole idea of taking something perverted , then adding some colour and frills to it and trying to sell it as normal makes me sick. Its like buying a rusted piece of junk car and spray painting it and selling it as new conditioned.
    It seems to bring people to attention when a man wants to marry two women, oh people seem to get all upset but it seems to be ok for this perverted act of homosexuality seems to be ok?? I dont get it. The thought makes me sick and to think that people in north america are allowing hollywood to dictate your moratlity and flavour everything so you can swallow it is mind boggeling. People dont realize that they are slowly being corrupted by hollywoods pushing of gay, and lesbian films, tv adds, tv weekly shows, all this is generated to change your mind. They are even working on your kids in school trying to link your objection to it to a hate crime.!! WAKE UP PEOPLE .

  • Kristin Smith
    Posted at 11:02h, 14 February

    I agree with Garry in the last comment: we are being “conditioned”, poisoned drop by drop till our young people will readily swallow the homosexual lifestyle as a normal and acceptable way of life. It will take much vigilance on the part of parents, families and individuals to overcome this insidious influence on our children and our own way of thinking. But it can and must be done. Stand firm.

  • Charley
    Posted at 12:03h, 14 February

    My only problem with these statistics is that most of them are very outdated, and outdated studies in any field of science are generally not considered as credible as newer ones. However, there may be a lack of current studies as the move towards pro-homosexuality is rampant in our society. Any current study that doesn’t finds the gay lifestyle as being less than ideal would not receive much support or voice in the media.

    UFI I think you can do a better job of finding current (2005+), and credible studies that show the homosexual lifestyle for what it really is.

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