15 May A “Peace” of Truth
From the Desk of Carol Soelberg:
I LOVE truth! I love how it lightens my mind and feels my being with peace! And today we offer you that experience! I just read through this week’s article and each time I have read it I have experienced that feeling of light and peace. I am struck with a realization that we have probably not articulated often or clearly enough the following information.
As a follower of United Families International, you are probably aware of the five respects we work so hard to protect: Life, marriage, parental rights, family strength (including religious and cultural norms that preserve the family), and national sovereignty. Are you aware that the greatest threat to four of the five respects is that of sexual liberalism? In other words, the issue that most decisively destroys the family is promiscuity and premarital sex.
Abortion, which curtails human life, is most often a result of sexual indulgence. Parental rights are often threatened because some form of sexual freedom is being forced on children against parent’s will. Marriage is threatened from within by infidelity and from without by those cultures that demand complete sexual “liberation!” Family strength is directly tied to cultural and religious observances that are constantly threatened by a culture that calls adherence to sexual restraint “discrimination.”
This week Marlene Hinton, our Parent Rights Specialist, offers some insight to all on why the demands for sexual liberation threaten not only families but also the very individuals who demand it. I sincerely encourage you to share this information with your children and anyone else who might enjoy a “peace” of truth!
President, United Families International
Thirsting for Sex
My summers growing up on a cotton farm in Arizona meant getting up every morning around 4:30, choking down scrambled eggs my dear father kindly burned for us, sharpening a hoe, and heading up into the cotton field to hunt for ever-present Bermuda and Johnson grasses, pigweeds, and the most evil of all, morning glory.
Absent the current variety of insulated containers and without means of carrying water with us, by the time we reached the end of the half-mile-long rows, we would be parched. The only water available was from the irrigation ditch. Sometimes it was full, sometimes little more than slime. And nearly always it had some type of fertilizer flowing into it. My thirst was such that against all prohibitions and dire warnings, I drank it.
Like thirst, sexual impulses are important to our well-being. However, like drinking irrigation water stewing bacteria in the hot sun and flavored by chemicals not intended for human health, indiscriminate sexual behavior poses a grave threat to our well-being. We are no longer shy about discussing the multiple dangers of “unprotected” sex. However, no amount of physical intervention can prevent crippling emotional, psychological, social, and spiritual effects.
Physical intimacy is inseparably connected to emotional and psychological expression. Sex is meant to function as a trilogy of pleasure in these areas, resulting in a deep level of happiness that is part of a connection with and attachment between husband and wife. This type of relationship includes not only a desire for physical proximity, but sensations of unity, belonging, loyalty, safety in vulnerability, and deep feelings of significance, meaning, and interpersonal knowing. Thus enacted, sexual intimacy elicits pleasure in each dimension, generating contentment and satisfaction.
Loss of emotional connection changes psychological functioning, leaving the physical senses gratified on one dimension, yet unfulfilled and insatiate. Like drinking seawater to slake one’s thirst, indiscriminate sex only creates a more intense desire to satisfy and fulfill the need for intimacy, which it can never do. Continued exposure to unfulfilling sexual encounters sabotages emotional and psychological health while compromising physical well-being. Frustration that results from not feeling satisfaction often is manifest as aggression. This pursuit typically leads to grotesque practices in an effort to indulge urges that cannot bring real pleasure without the accompanying emotional connection. The thirst remains unabated.
Just as physical death is a real risk in indiscriminate sex, more certain even is the deadening of emotional, psychological, and social circuitry that is fatal to all types of vibrant interpersonal connection. Without development of healthy relationships, socialization deteriorates into sexualization, a counterfeit form of interaction without love, attachment, or fulfillment (See Donna Freitas, The End of Sex). Continued engagement in meaningless sex causes desensitization, which further dulls the potential for enjoyment, until the physical relationship meant to strengthen families ultimately destroys detached and miserable individuals. The yearning and desire burn like throats desperate for water, but the gratification is only a mirage.
The greatest risk of a life of indiscriminate and unrestrained sex is that those practitioners can never feel the joy of physical intimacy.
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Marlene Hinton is a wife, mother, grandmother, and defines herself principally through faith, family, and freedom. A teacher for many decades, education, particularly in those three areas, is a focus. She holds degrees in history, Spanish, bilingual education, and a Ph.D. in curriculum and instruction.