by Keely Tanner
Have you ever wondered “what is it that my husband really needs?” Or “What can I do to understand my wife?” These are questions that committed wives and husbands ask themselves all the time. Now we may not know all the answers and everyone is different, but we all have needs in our relationships–especially in a marriage.
According to Dr. Mark D. Ogletree, a licensed professional counselor who treats individuals, couples and families dealing with relationship difficulties, men and women’s needs are usually quite different.
Women’s basic needs:
Affection: a symbol of security, protection, comfort, and approval.
Conversation: “Talking to us helps us feel loved.” Meaningful communication is the key to a women’s heart.
Honesty and openness: “Being honest and open helps us feel connected and close.”
Financial support: Knowing that there is money to buy food and other basic needs for the family provides financial security.
Family commitment: Spending quality time with the family and even extended family.
Men’s basic needs
Sexual affection: Strengthens the marriage bond and the relationship.
Recreational fulfillment: Men like it when their wives enjoy doing the same activities that they enjoy.
An attractive spouse: Men appreciate a wife that takes care of yourself.
Domestic support: Having a clean and organized home for both the family and husband.
Admiration: Men want to feel admired. It helps them feel motivated and rewards the husband.
The needs of both husband and wife are important to our marriage relationships. Core needs must be met: Security, acceptance, respect, love, growth and progress. As we come to understand the needs of our husbands or wives we will be able to build a stronger and long-lasting relationship with them.