by Ashley Corbaley
What is a friend? It’s someone who knows you, cares about you, and supports you. A friend is someone you trust and who will never leave your side – a person who knows all of your weaknesses but loves you anyway.
Friendships are special. They require effort from both involved to form and maintain the relationship. Perhaps one of the most important friendships you will have in your life is the one you have with your spouse.
“It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.” – Friedrich Nietzsche
Friendship in a marriage is the foundation on which love blossoms and thrives. The happiest marriages are those that have the best friendships. It is not enough that to marry your best friend; you must continue to nurture and build upon your friendship each and every day.
How can you strengthen the friendship you have with your spouse? Here are some ideas:
- Get to know one another
Whether you have been married for fifty days or fifty years, there is always something new to learn about your spouse. I don’t believe we can ever fully know everything about someone else, and that is the fun part! Get to know what makes them smile and what makes them tick. It isn’t enough to share the same roof, truly get to know each other in anyway you can.
- Be his or her biggest fan
I enjoy acting and often perform in plays. My husband watches me in these plays, and I know that seeing plays is probably not high on the list of things he wants to do. I told him that he didn’t have to come see my show because I knew he wasn’t a fan of theatre. He turned to me and said: “I might not be a theater fan, but I am your fan.”
Through all of our mistakes, would it not be wonderful to know that we have someone on our side, rooting for us? Let us be that support to our spouses in all the good things they may do.
- Spend time together
Make spending uninterrupted, quality time with your spouse a priority. Life is busy but make sure to schedule time for each other. Do things together that you both are interested in. Go on adventures and explore together. Take a trip, play a game, discover a new talent. Nothing says: “I love you” more than spending quality time.
- Always speak kindly of one another to others
Like you, a spouse is not perfect. They do things that annoy you or cause you sadness from time to time. It may be tempting to vent frustrations to others about your spouse. However, it is extremely wise to never speak ill of one another. When you are tempted to talk poorly about your spouse, just think how you would feel if you discovered your spouse was speaking poorly of you. Your spouse needs to be lifted up, not put down.
- Be there
A true friend will be there for you in your time of need. Just the same, your spouse should always be there for you, especially when life gets tough. Let your spouse be the first person you turn to for comfort or advice. Be ready to drop everything to give that same comfort and advice in return. Always be there for your spouse through the good and bad, and let your spouse be there for you.
A friend is someone who knows you, is your biggest fan and who spends time with you. A friend never speaks badly about you and is always there for you through the good and bad.
What is a spouse? A spouse is your companion, your partner and most importantly your friend.