“You’re one of the good guys!”
This is one of the things my father wrote in a birthday card to me some years ago that I never will forget. Nothing makes you feel like a man than such validation from the man you look up to. Just as in this instance that endowed me with validation and a good amount of courage, some fathers, at times, may say things that have equally long-lasting negative effects on their children. Fathers have the power to impact the lives of their children, for good or for bad.
Have you taken the time recently to sit down and think about what your father or a close father figure has meant to you?
While children of good fathers may be able to note the positive aspects of men in their lives through experience, even governments are recognizing the importance of fathers. Take Japan for instance. Japan has a long history of a strict work ethic including long hours and even traveling long distances to work where employees live away from family during the week. According to a 2011 article in Japanese Times it was reported that, “Two years ago the government set a goal to raise the proportion of men taking paternity leave from just over 1 percent in 2008 to 13 percent in 2020.” Japan realizes that the home and a father’s influence is important for the progress of the rising generation.
Even Germany, the workhorse of Europe, has been seeing a trend in its government and in its fathers in favor for more paternal involvement in the home. (see http://www.young-germany.de/topic/live/family-friends/redefining-fatherhood)